Hello All,

I'm dating a guy who's 13 years younger than I am. We met in a bookstore 5 months ago and we hit it off. I didn't know his age when I met him and he didn't exactly want to tell me either. Anyway, since I'm older and been through a divorce ( no kids ) a couple years ago, I didn't want anything too serious with this guy. I told him that I wanted to take things slow. Apparently things are too slow for him.

He is really nice to me except for when he hears something that he doesn't like. He is extremely conservative and gets mad if I try to "wear the pants." So, yes, he's a little chauvinistic. He's also not the greatest looking guy in the world (but so what). He accuses me of wanting someone who's older (my age), better looking, and someone over 6ft tall.

The major problem that I have with this guy is that I can't see him every day and he doesn't like it. I am a business owner and work about 50 or 60 hours a week. I also need "me" time like going to the gym and also spending some time with girlfriends. I have been going to the gym less and also seeing him week nights for dinner or drinks. He thinks that 2-3 times a week isn't enough. He just gave me a difficult time because I am going to see a play tonight (Saturday night) with my mother and aunt. He wishes that I had the night free to see him. I told him that I could see him tomorrow. Also, he went home sick today from work and he got nasty with me on the phone when I told him that I could not come over to see him. Actually, I said that I could drop by for a little bit before the play this evening. He got mad and said good bye on the phone and hung up. It seems like he is being mean. I don't know if I am being selfish and should put down what I am doing sometimes and spend more time with him. Maybe it's me? I don't know. What do you guys think? Do you think I'm being selfish because I can't see him every day? I like this guy and I would hate to lose him but, when he gets angry with me about this stuff, it makes me want to walk away. He likes to say also that I'm too "independent" and should depend on him more. I'm so confused. Help!!

twinkiedooter

First he's way too young for you period. Next he's far from mature for you by the way he acts and reacts. Do you want a boyfriend or a dictator in your life? You may be lonely if you don't have him in your life, but are you willing to let him run the show and essentially boss you around all the time? I sure hope not. Please stop seeing him and find someone who is more mature and much less demanding as this guy sounds like he'll only get worse as time goes by bossing you around. Next thing he'll start bossing around is your wallet or bank account.