is my boyfriend too old for me ?

misscat · #1 Oct 17, 2007, 12:33 PM

Me and my boyfriend have been dating around 3 months. He's really cool and we get along great. Partially because he has been a good friend of my family's for years, but the thing is he's 4 years older than me.
(I'm 15 he's 19)
My parents completely disagree with our dating because of the age difference, so we've been keeping it a secret.
We really care for each other, but I kind of feel bad about having to keep things so secret. I feel like we should be able to go to the movies without worrying about someone seeing us and getting in trouble.
I don't know what I should do.
advice ?

Kiwigal · Oct 17, 2007, 01:56 PM

What are your parents concerns about exactly? Is it that he's older and possibly more into sex than they believe you should be or what? If you don't know for sure what their concerns are exactly, then you need to find out. Once you know what these are, then you and he could work out how you could work your relationship that might be acceptable to them, and then you could all get together and talk about it. Perhaps ask your parents if dating him would be ok and allow them to set the ground rules (which will allow them to be a little more comfortable with the idea). And ultimately, remember they love you and are only concerned for your well-being.

It's not easy keeping a relationship a secret - and the longer it goes, the more likely you will get 'found out'. Then you will have even more trouble on your hands...

Curlyben · Oct 17, 2007, 02:00 PM

Quote:

is my boyfriend too old for me ?
(I'm 15 he's 19)

YES

oatshoney · Oct 17, 2007, 07:22 PM

Maybe for the best is to stop dating till ur at least in 11/12 th grade, and build your relationship, if you can keep it a secret , which means even at school, no holding hands kissing or acting like a couple, no presents, no "honey" or "babe or Baby" just act like best friends instead or confront your parents, if he comes on to you and you wound up haveing sex with him, and someone found out he could go to jail with statchatory rape, even if you wanted it ,, but dont go that far it might wind up a mess. but you should just not go out, listen to your parents and if they find out , dont shut them out of your world and say "i hate you, and you hate me , or its not fair, i dont get it." ts legal but they are probaly afraid of you having sex. ONE PIECE OF ADVICE.......Dont have sex until your married.



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