Ok so my boyfriend of 5 months is driving me completely crazy. here are some of the things he does to do so.
- He Checks my face book wall any time hes at a computer messaging any guy who messages me the leave me the hell alone
- He guilt trips me when i go out with my friends
- He guilt trips me when i want a night just to myself
- I get at least 20 phone calls a day from him
- He guilt trips me if i don't text back his hundreds of texts
- He drives by my house to see if my car is there or not and if it isn't calls and asks where i am
- Constantly thinks I'm out and about with other guys or out partying when i tell him i don't feel like hanging out.
- Tells me he never wants to leave me ever (by the way im only 18)
- demands i say I Love You after every phone call.
Okay so those are just a few of the things he does to drive me nutty
So i finally told him that i felt that he was smothering me
and he started guilt tripping me saying stuff just to try and get me to stay with him
At this point my feelings for him have completely changed and every time i talk to him i get irritated or aggravated. I really want to get out of this relationship but i dont know how im going to do it, i know i will have to hurt some feelings but i want to be very gentle because i feel horrible about it. Im so stuck right now
can anyone give me some advice!?

HelpinHere

As everyone has said, you need to get away from him, and NOW!
I agree with Gimini's suggestion, as that is a viable option on how to do it, just make SURE he knows it's over.

@bassplayer: That is not clingy, look it up.
Clingy: To remain close; resist separation.
Courtesy ~ dictionary.com

Clingy is an obsessiveness to know anything and everything about the person in question, and a physical desire to be with them for it all.

What you are talking about is interest. You can like a girl, think about them all the time, without being clingy.
You yourself are an example of this:
I "cant stop thinking about her and talking about her." You don't say "I have to know where she is, what she is doing, and with who, every second of the day." That is what happens when you like someone, that is NOT being clingy.

Torrid13

Holy Crudmonkey!

I'm not even dating this guy, let alone KNOW him, and *I'M* feeling smothered. x_x

I respect you're a nice person and don't want to hurt his feelings, but at this point, YOU'RE the one who matters. This guy is already a stalker; things might get messy when you break up with him, so make sure you bring someone along, and be sure to block him from FB. No doubt his stalkerish tendencies will get worse in his attempts to get you back!

*shudders*

450donn

Ger off face book NOW! Change your phone numbers, delete every text or voice mail he sends you. This guy is already showing signs of being a very dangerous person. Get as far away from him as you can. And don't be afraid to contact the police if he does not leave you alone.

maureeeen

obsessive much? he must not trust you @ all

Jake2008

People in abused relationships such as you describe, need to get out before it gets physical. Abusers are dangerous, unpredictable people.

Resistance is met with more control, and the sooner you break this toxic relationship, the better.

You cannot worry about hurting his feelings, or feeling guilty for being in control of your own decisions. Tell him in as few words as possible that the relationship is over. Period. You don't need to explain yourself, site examples, explain how his behaviour makes you feel, etc.

If he understood his own behaviour, you would not feel the way you do- he will not understand you breaking up with him, so keep it simple. Don't open yourself up for further pressure by being tricked into believing that he will change, or that he is sincere.

If you are unsure or afraid of meeting him to end the relationship, then email him. Don't back down, don't change your mind, you are doing the right thing in removing this person from your life, and regaining your independece.

When you have broken up with him, please be cautious. Keep track of dates/times that he contacts you, or contacts you through friends. I don't want to scare you, but you may be facing a restraining order to keep him away. Please tell your parents what is going on.

As others have said that understand this type of situation, block his phone number, take him off your facebook, and if you have any thoughts of being 'friends' with this guy, knock them out of your head.

Please stay strong, you are right in what you are doing, just do it. Please let us know how you made out.

slapshot_oi

Dump this loser.