My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 1/2 years. We moved to a new city about 7 months ago and live together. He had been unemployed after finishing grad school and was depressed (I didn't realize at the time how depressed he was, but it seems clear now that he should've been seeing someone). In February something didn't seem right one night and I checked his email, which I've never done before. Turns out he had been sending nude photos of himself to women. He explained it was a way to make himself feel good about himself, but he's never slept with anyone or met with anyone. Since then he got a job, we have been going to couple's counseling and things were getting a lot better. But then I just found out that he contacted another woman after we got into a big fight. I know I need to breakup with him, but I'm still in love with him... I'm embarrassed to talk about this with my friends. What do you think?

I think he needs more counselling - joint and single. It seems rather obvious that he sends nude photos in order to feel better about himself (which he acknowledges). He needs to find another way to stoke his ego, obviously.

I would be concerned, very concerned.

And, yes, I think you need to break up with him.

I also think someone should tell him that what is emailed, texted, posted, never dies and this could impact his entire life, as well as yours.

I think if you know you need to break up with him, do it! It does no good to prolong the inevitable. You will become more angry and hurt.

I am very concerned, but it's hard to give up ａｆｔｅｒ ｓｏ ｍｕｃｈ ｔｉｍｅ ａｎｄ ｐｌａｎｎｉｎｇ ａ ｆｕｔｕｒｅ ｔｏｇｅｔｈｅｒ. My hope is he gets help from counseling to solve these issues... I know I ｐｒｏｂａｂｌｙ ｓｅｅｍ ｓｔｕｐｉｄ, ｂｕｔ Ｉ'ｍ ｈａｖｉｎｇ ａ ｈａｒｄ ｔｉｍｅ ｆｉｎｄｉｎｇ ｔｈｅ ｗｉｌｌ ｔｏ ｇｉｖｅ ｕｐ ｈｏｐｅ ａｎｄ ｅｎｄ ｉｔ, ｅｓｐｅｃｉａｌｌｙ ｓｉｎｃｅ ｈｅ ｉｓ ｎｏｗ ｓｅｅｉｎｇ ａ ｃｏｕｎｓｅｌｏｒ ｉｎｄｉｖｉｄｕａｌｌｙ (ａｌｏｎｇ ｗｉｔｈ ｔｈｅ ｃｏｕｐｌｅ'ｓ ｃｏｕｎｓｅｌｏｒ) ａｎｄ Ｉ ａｍ ｓｔｉｌｌ ｉｎ ｌｏｖｅ ｗｉｔｈ ｈｉｍ... Ｄｏ ｙｏｕ ｔｈｉｎｋ ｐｅｏｐｌｅ ｃｈａｎｇｅ, ｏｒ ａｍ Ｉ ｂｅｉｎｇ ｎａｉｖｅ??

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

I think he needs more counselling - joint and single. It seems rather obvious that he sends nude photos in order to feel better about himself (which he acknowledges). He needs to find another way to stoke his ego, obviously.

I would be concerned, very concerned.

And, yes, I think you need to break up with him.

I also think someone should tell him that what is emailed, texted, posted, never dies and this could impact his entire life, as well as yours.

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