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Old May 17, 2008, 08:23 PM
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My boyfriend says "i love you" what do i say to that?

My boyfriend and i have been going out for a few weeks and he's saying "i love you" already. I dont mind that he's saying this and i know he's not intending on rushing things but i just dont know what to say to that. I like him so much and i think he's amazing but i dont want to say "i love you too" untill i mean it with all my heart. Also, I dont want to reply "oh thats so sweet" because it sounds like i'm saying "thank you" and its also missing the 'i feel the same way about you' part. I just want to reasure him that i really like him and i'm so glad were going out. I've been trying to say how i feel but i dont think its really getting through to him. help!

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Old May 17, 2008, 08:30 PM   #2  
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What do you say to that. You answered your own question within your question.

Speak to him. Tell him that you really do like him and that he is amazing. Tell him that you do not want to say that back until you mean it with all your heart.

Just going out for a few weeks and already saying it. That puts you in an awkward situation. It takes time and do not rush saying it if your not ready. Sorry but saying that he loves you is rushing on things. If you do not mind he is saying that well, that is up to you right?

Actions speak louder then words. How do you treat him, what do you say to him. If it is not getting through to him, maybe he is too focused on how he feels. Does this make sense?
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I would add a caution. AS A MALE, I would be suspicious of boys saying such things so quickly. It's the kind of thing a guy knows a girl usually wants to hear before she's willing to "do more" in private with him.

I know you didn't suggest this was the case. I bring it up as a warning. Simply put, at this point I would believe it to be mildly manipulative.

Also, he may mean it, and that could still be manipulative. So, you're going to have to say something. If it were me, I'd rather hear "that's sweet, thank you for saying that" than nothing at all.

If he follows it with inquiries about why you don't say it back, "Oh, is that why you said it to me, to hear me say it back? Wow, that's not very nice. I thought you said it because you meant it."
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From the very begining why would you date someone whom you do not love (or not sure about it)? Why wait to date before love ??? Would not it be more appropriate to do things in a logical order ...(Keep it simple .. do not date before you are realy in love) ?
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From the very begining why would you date someone whom you do not love (or not sure about it)? Why wait to date before love ??? Would not it be more appropriate to do things in a logical order ...(Keep it simple .. do not date before you are realy in love) ?

You don't fall in love before you date someone, you fall in love with someone AFTER you start dating. How can you fall in love with someone before you really know them?
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Love is means different things to different people. Saying ' I love you' is fine but it is the actions behind those words that matter.

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