Ok so heres the deal. Its a long distance relationship but right now im visiting him. My BF likes to play the PS3 alot by himself, and when he does he barely even says a word. Its also taking up what free time he has. Also... we've dated before and he was my date for this formal dinner. Someone told him that another girl liked him, so he goes and asks her if she wanted to be a 2nd date. He either felt sorry for her or.. something. And we're supposed to go skating, originally just the two of us. Then he comes home saying "Oh yeah, Sarah wants to come skating too." Sarah is his coworker he hangs out with alot.

On to the point... My main issue right now is that ive decided to become an Officer with the RCMP. Problem with that is... is that my BF has a problem with it. He says its all a gong-show, and that every police officer is stupid. Last night we had an argument about it and basically i get the impression that he doesnt approve, and wont support me. When I told him why i was so upset he said "This again?!". And im also afraid that if i do become an officer he'll think im stupid and part of the whole "gong-show" business. We havent really spoken or looked at each other since last night. I still have 2 weeks left here. What should i do? Hes nice in every other way... He even gave me a white gold chain.... Should that be part of decision i have to make?

N0help4u

Follow your dreams and move on without him. He will only hold you back and you will end up miserable.
Too many red flags in two short paragraphs!!!
Playing PS3 barely even says a word = ignoring you and taking you for granted

another girl liked him, so he goes and asks her if she wanted to be a 2nd date = equals you'll do but another will too.

He either felt sorry for her or.. something = making excuses for his behavior.

supposed to go skating, originally just the two of us. Then he comes home saying "Oh yeah, Sarah wants to come skating too." = assuming and not considering your input in decisions.

ive decided to become an Officer with the RCMP. Problem with that is... is that my BF has a problem with it. = sign of a controlling guy

He says its all a gong-show, and that every police officer is stupid = belittling YOU

he said "This again?!". = sign he sees you as a whiny nag

afraid that if i do become an officer he'll think im stupid and part of the whole "gong-show" business. = you will be walking on eggshells trying to please him and 'make up for it' and
he will only get worse with how he treats you.

Hes nice in every other way = yeah when it comes to he is happy and you don't cross him.

He even gave me a white gold chain.... Should that be part of decision i have to make? = NO buy your own necklace and find a guy that will buy you a ring and respect you (and your dreams) for who you are

Leave him in the dust, to somebody that can be content with his ways and rules

pasiria

Police officers protect and serve. They have to think clearly at all times. They have to be very alert. They risk their lives for us. They act as counselors during family violence. They are intelligent and courageous. Do you think that defines stupid? Pretty much, stupid defines him for calling you names. He should be proud of you. Dump him, he deserves it. Just stay away from donuts once you become an officer...just kidding...my respect for officers.