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I am 20 and my breasts have been sagging since I was 18, when I lost a lot of weight. My boyfriend has for quite a long time been asking me(frequently) if I could get a breast lift done in the future. As of now I don't have the money but should I consider this in the future? Is he being reasonable? I know I look bad because of the drooping boobs but I don't feel comfortable with the idea of getting surgery done. I have told him this but I know he finds the boobs really unattractive and I suppose most other guys would find it a dealbreaker?
It's your own body, you shouldn't do something you are not comfortable with. And you especially shouldn't do something to your own body to please him. It seems quite selfish on his part, would he get a surgical penis enlargement if you asked him?
It depends on the guys, I don't really look at breast to determine if a women is hot or not. It's a matter of which types of guys you want to be with. My ex had quite a lot of physical problems but I didn't tell her anything because I loved her as she was. Besides you can always fool men by putting push up bra.
As guys we also have insecurity issues so don't worry about that. You should be confident and that is a huge turn on.
I really think you should do what you want to do. You probably have in your mind what you want to do right? Which you said you don't feel comfortable with getting surgery, so don't do it.
If he really loves you then he can live with it. If not another guy will love you for your other qualities instead of your breast. I think he is just being selfish.
any guy who finds something as minor as that a dealbreaker isn't worth your time or consideration.
has he been telling, or even implying, you that no other guy would want to be with you because of it? if so, then that is a clear sign of a controlling personality and emotional manipulation and abuse. i would strongly suggest reconsidering any relationship with someone who wants you to change the way you look just to please them.
Well... I suggest that you do what makes you comfortable. Are you comfortable with your breasts? If you are, then I am sure some young man will come along who will accept you for who you are. if he truly loves you, he will realize its not your fault. Talk about it and make a decision together- as long as it makes you comfortable.
If,you are comfortable with your body then,you are blessed because most women aren't.He want's you to have an invasive and possibly dangerous surgery.AND he expects you to pay for it? What a jerk.You are young. I hope that you'll find a kind man and lose this dude.good-luck.
men on other forums have said that most men would be turned off
then they are shallow, insensitive, idiots. anyone who truly cares about you won't let something so petty ruin a relationship.
that being said, surgery on your breasts at this point in your life is not a good idea. there is still a very good chance that your breasts will grow for the next several years. I'm almost 23 and have gained almost 2 cup sizes in the last 2-3 years.
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