Me and my bf have been dating for almost 4 months. He is mexican and I am half Apache indian and half polish and czech. We have such a good connection but latley he had been making racist jokes about me. It annoys me but when I get home and it sinks in, it truly upsets me. I can take a joke but he actually makes me feel ashamed of my culture and sometimes I get the notion that the he thinks his race is better than mine. What should I do?

crisluvsu731

Girl, you need to drop him. That isn't going to change, I can tell you that now. If he is doing it now and doesn't notice it hurts you, he isn't worth it. You deserve someone who will love you for who you are, not pull you down.

Gemini54

Essentially what he's doing is utterly disrespectful and shows an alarming disregard for your feelings.

You've asked him to stop, he tells you that he's joking. In other words - what's wrong with you? Can't you take a joke?

He's not listening, which is red flag number two.

Tell him straight to stop the racist jokes. If he keeps making excuses about how it's your problem I'd be walking out the door.

Treat yourself with the respect you deserve, even if he won't!

stevetcg

No - "most" guys make racial jokes because they are racists. I am funny... and never make racial jokes.

Dump his loser butt.

CFZD

OP,

I don't think you necessarily need to drop him. Some people are not sensitive about making that type of jokes. I work with a group of male engineers, they joke about everything, gender, race etc. They may come across as idiots! lol

I talk to one once that some jokes are not nice, he said " sometimes, we talk sh*t, we don't even know what we are talking about..."

LOL

oh well

NeedKarma

Nope, they *always* know what they (we men) are talking about.

CFZD

see, that's an example!

NeedKarma

Of what?

CFZD

again!

NeedKarma

You are a confusing person.

CFZD

You must be a man then.