HELP ME!
My best friend slept with a 20 yr old and 2 weeks later a 14 year old! She's ONLY 14. I'm over listening to it, and I'm trying to avoid her, but she doesn't leave me alone. WHAT DO I DO? IT IS REALLY PISSING ME OFF!!
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HELP ME!
My best friend slept with a 20 yr old and 2 weeks later a 14 year old! She's ONLY 14. I'm over listening to it, and I'm trying to avoid her, but she doesn't leave me alone. WHAT DO I DO? IT IS REALLY PISSING ME OFF!!
You can start but not being vulgar. And not using all caps. Some of us here may have trouble reading it. To make this easier, please remove the all caps. Then I can answer your question
Have you talked to her about it? Why does she do it and does she know it's wrong? Does anybody else know? I just want a little more info before I can say more stuff
Well first off I'm not for sure what state you are in but in Michigan that is statutorily rape turn him in... also girls that are sleeping around like that at a very young age have a greater chance at getting pregnant at a very young age also. When girls sleep with people just to sleep with them, there is something that has happened in there life when they were younger to make them act that way,do her parents give her a lot of attention? When a guy says "hey baby ur so pretty or sexy" or something along the lines like that. The Girl that doent have high self esteem is going to go for it and do what ever he tells her to. I have went to high school and now I'm in collage my grandmother and grandfather both deal with troubled teens like this, they always talk to me about what guys do to get in girls pants and what to watch for. All I can say is to this is tell her parents what is going on and she may hate you but when she grows up and she meets a guy that she really like and he hears about her past he may not like it and he may just up leaving her, she will thank you later on in life. For god sake she is 14. Just do not go in the same path as her.. I hope I helped:)
I don't know why you are more angry, than you are concerned. Calling your best friend a slut shows what you think of her.
If you are asking what to do, speak to her parents about the 20 year old, or speak to your parents, and ask them to talk to her parents. If you have reason to believe she is telling the truth and not making up stories, everybody has an obligation to speak up about this.Other than tell her that high risk behaviour such as being sexually active at her age, could result in STD's, and pregnancy, let her know that you don't agree with what she is doing. Other than that, if she is determined to sleep around with guys, there is little you can do.
In life our friends may do things that we don't agree are right but if they are your friend you shouldn't just turn your back on them especially if they didn't do something to to you directly. I agree with everyone else about her actions and maybe you should do what Jake suggested.
Also, you stated she won't leave you alone but have you told her how you felt?
Tell her you do not want to hang out with a girl who has sex with older men who are over 18... If you don't be careful she well put things in your head and make you like her.. Don't be her friend anymore BELIEVE ME its for your best!! (:
I had a friend who slept around a lot and I didn't end up like her nor did it make me end our friendship. She didn't try to make me sleep around a day in her life. Yes, I expressed to her on numerous occasions my dislike of her lifestyle and also my concerns. We even had a few arguments over it which led us not to speak for days or weeks at time.Quote:
Originally Posted by mame_chula123
The point is a friend is a friend. Even though my friend did the things she did she always had my back. She was always there when I needed her no matter what time of the day it was. We been friends for over 14 years and I love her to death. I am glad she changed her lifestyle around and glad to call her my friend.
However, I know the situation is different becausr these are teenagers and I hope your friend stops what she is doing and some adult is made aware of her actions. No one can make you be friends with this so if you don't than don't but make it clear to her. Now, if this is a friend worth having even though she have slept around then you might be the one to have a major impact on her life.
Very well said, Liz. It seems I need to spread some reputation, but you are a good friend.Quote:
Originally Posted by liz28
People tend to think of the negative influence a 'bad' girl/boy will have on a 'good' boy/girl. However, being a positive influence in someone's life can have more affect on them than their negative behavior has on you.
I do agree that you need to let a grown up know about her behavior especially with the 20 year old. Did you ever think that she keeps pestering you because she needs someone to push her in the direction of getting help? It doesn't mean you have to listen or stay friends with her, but do tell an adult (parent, guidance counselor, etc.) before you completely get her out of your life.
That was hardly vulgar. Please get off your high horse and maybe someone will care about what you said. Thanks.
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