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Recently i discovered that my best friend is dating my gf for the past 3years.Since she come my way i have never slept with her because i told her we should be in a relationship then there after we can marry each other,unfortunately she has done it with my best fried.i really love her very much since she is my first love now i don't know what to do to get her back.pliz help.
well, it seems to me that you love her but she is not loving you back. let's just think this out, ok? not just because she had sexual intercourse with your bestfriend it means that she loves him, sometimes it can be done for pleasure. now, do you think you give her all she needs? did you ask her to have sexual intercourse with you? are you giving her tht pleasure she feels like she needs? well, if you want her back that badly you've gotta show her that you are better than your friend, because if you do so, she might come back to you.
Recently i discovered that my best friend is dating my gf for the past 3years.Since she come my way i have never slept with her because i told her we should be in a relationship then there after we can marry each other,unfortunately she has done it with my best fried.i really love her very much since she is my first love now i don't know what to do to get her back.pliz help.
Geoffrey.
You should have said that my EX best friend is having an affair with my EX girl friend.
Kebogani,one big question needs to be answered: Did they hook up while you and she were still together? Were they seeing each other for three years, or was she your gf for three years, and they connected afterward? If she cheated on you, I agree with these folks who are telling you to dump both of them, and would like to add the suggestion that you look into yourself and ask "What does it say about me that I am willing to get back with her after she did something so stupid and selfish?" She might be your first love, but how can you trust her? Yes, she will do it again.
If they got together after you and she had split up, she owes you nothing, but it is still cowardly of your best friend not to tell you. Unless he is deeply in love, and she is "The One," he has no business complicating your lives by dating her. I suggest that you look him in the eye and ask him what stopped him from telling you, and what he thinks that says about him and about your friendship. If he owns up and takes responsibility, you might recognize that they didn't cheat; they just hid.
In that case, he might have been a coward, but he didn't betray you. If you feel strongly about the relationship between you and him, it might be in your interest to patch up this friendship. It's not that people make mistakes; it's about what they do when they discover that they have made a mistake. From this experience, both you and he can deepen yourselves and learn how to cope better with the complexities of life.
If you keep your friendship, you would be wise to set up some ground rules about what is, and is not, OK in situations like this in the future. If those rules are clear and agreed upon, you have a right to expect him to stick by them, and he has the same right with you.
Keep in mind that holding a grudge sickens the body, and forgiving opens the heart and mind. You will be happier when you let this go. Let it all go.
too be honest he's not a friend really is he; if hes with her.
you don't need her babe. everyone falls in love at one point or another and you will find love again. you just need to let this one go. nobody should be put through what you have been put through. seriously babe; go and find yourself a better one.
and as for your friend well he must not care as much as a friend would you need to let him go to trust me life will get better it just takes time xx
You can't always expect to be with you first love for the rest of your life. I mean really what kind of friend does that. If one of my friends did that to me they would be dropped because they wasn't a real friend anyways. And my guy having sex with my best friend isn't worth wanting. I wouldn't want him if he was the last man on earth if he done tha that to me. Find a new woman, one that will treat you right. Good luck in life.
Sure you might love her, but maybe she doesnt know that. tell her and then say that you want her to be YOURS. not your best friends. tell her that though you love her, you cant stay with some one that breaks your heart.
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