my boyfriend is super sweet. but i kissed him and he sucks! how do i tell him and what do i do about it?

jolienoire

wow this can suck but it's workable... is he going to fast? if so tell him to take his time.... Lead grab his face tell him you don't want him to do anything... and you kiss him as soft as possible, take your time, let him know that there is no rush... When you say he can't kiss, you need to give details does he leave a slob trail? is he not opening his mouth wide enough?

FallenFromGrace

A slob trail.. lol! No matter what I would not say anything like "You know, you really suck at kissing." Put it back on you.. telling him "I really like it this way. " and then show him. Never say you don't like the way he kisses. When he does do something you like.. tell him. (When you kiss me like that it is a huge turn on) Men are like puppies.. hit them with the newspaper and they become hand shy. Scratch them the right way and they follow you around. (Sorry guys... having a complete female moment!)

FallenFromGrace

Thanks Jolie.. Ex, only you would not be offended by that.

pasiria

With practice comes perfection. Regrettably, kissing is not always something that comes natural; it is relatively a skill that needs to be experienced, and enhanced with time. A genuine kiss, (a sincere kiss) sends signals from your brain to your body. If you want to feel electrified make sure you do more than just peck. To be a good kisser you must go with the sensation. You don’t want to be too aggressive, but keep in mind that some guys like it when a woman takes charge, especially if they are in a long term relationship. A good kiss depends on what the couple finds excited. Take initiative and show him how to kiss by actually doing it. Good advice from the rest. Kissing is art, just like dancing and drawing.

lovelyloserkb

Kiss him the way you like to be kissed. Most people will slow down if their partner is going slow, or speed up if they need to. If it's too much tongue just tell him maybe jokingly to put that thing back in his mouth..lol

jolienoire

I didn't say he left a slob trail .... it was a question ending in a question mark... was trying to get the details as to why he is a bad kisser... you didn't say why specifically...

kp2171

first of all... please dont throw around disagrees like candy. a disagree is meant to flag an answer that is factually incorrect, per the AMHD site rules. even if the poster makes an assumption that isnt spot on, you should restrain yourself from slapping those who are taking time to try to help you, especially when they are approaching your problem thoughtfully and kindly. jolie gives great advice, you should be glad to have her attention.

next... whats the problem? does he kiss too hard? soft? too much tongue? not enough? too slow? fast? whats the problem?

then, as the good advice youve had has already said, find a way to lead him. if my partner tells me "softer" or "slower" or "deeper" i listen.

open comminication and a willingness to let down your guard and leave your inhibitions at the door go a long way toward your getting what you want.

if he is offended... well... he has a lot to learn. ive done a lot of things wrong before i did them right... and it took a strong girl saying "thats not what i need" to get me to understand.

so... start speaking up now. i promise you, even if he doesnt respond kindly, and he might very well listen to every word if he has half a clue, you will be better off for starting to take control of your own sexuality early on.