Hi all, I'm new here. Here's the deal. I met my boyfriend online. He told me is divorced for 2 years. He came to my country and we hooked up. We continued our correspondense, and talking on the phone for a year before I went to visit him in his country and by then our relationship progressed to a committed relationship. We were even talking living together for the rest of our lives. The first person I met in his house was his ex-wife. She was there walking his dog while he picked me up at the airport. Their pictures as a family is all over his house. Sure I do have my pictures too hanging on his wall. I didn't know that they keep calling each other several times a day, that ex wife can come to his house anytime, that she can just go in his bedroom and have a look at my closet, that they are spending holidays together and have pictures every holidays that shows that they are still a happy family... and that he came to see me in my country 3 months after the finalization of their divorced (while I thought he was divorced of 2 years already). They have a 24 yearl old son. Oh and by the way, they were married for 20 years or so. I tried to be understanding as I can be but I just can't take their sweetness with each other so I talked to my boyfriend and told him my concerns. He seems to be very understanding and assured me that he's going to talk to his ex-wife about it. The coming of his ex-wife to his house was reduced but not the calls. He told me he loves me and nothing to worry because our conversation is a lot more meaningful that what they are having with his ex. I really want to believe him but it feels like he enjoys his ex-wife attention. And the ex-wife seem flirty to him e.g putting her arms arounds his shoulder even if I'm around, patting his back , etc. etc. Despite of all my doubts, we continued talking to each other even after I came back to my country-meaning, we continued our relationship. He is now again inviting me to go see him but I'm rocking my head hard if he's worth all the trouble of traveling not to add the cost. I love him and I reall care for him but at the back of my head, I know there's something wrong with our relationship. He is very kind and loving to me but he is too with his ex-wife.

Any advice/comments will be much appreciated.

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