I really need a guys opinion. How do you keep guys wanting more of you, the SAME way that guys keep girls wanting more of them? Let me elaborate: A guy will ask for a girls phone number, call her once, they may meet, they may not, but they at least talk once. Then, he doesn't call again and the girl is left TOTALLY confused. He obviously was interested, he may have even said he was, but he doesn't contact her again. Or a guy will email a girl, they'll email back and fourth for a couple weeks, then, it just stops. A month or 2 will go by, and up pops an email or a text message from Mr. Disappear-Reappear!! Usually, this re-appearing act completely excites the girl, because, well, he contacted her again. The thing is, even though this guy didn't contact her for a while, he was still VERY much on the girls mind so she is happy to hear from him. How do guys do it? Lately, a recent happening kind of inspired ME, a female (which I'm sure you already knew ; P ) to start "keeping the boys on THEIR toes" for a change. My recent story: A guy started talking to me from my myspace profile. For 2 weeks we exchanged emails, flirting back and fourth, he really wanted to meet me so I said it would be cool. The night we were supposed to meet I arrive at the [public] meeting place we agreed on, I wait 5 minutes and I call him and guess what? He informs me that he won't be able to make it!! He's stuck working!! Funny because that wasn't mentioned earlier in the day, when he called me to confirm our plans, that he'd be working!! He wasn't even at work when he called!! After hanging up, of course making sure he hears the utter annoyance in my voice, I think, ok, HE was the one to initiate, NOT the other way around!! Yet, HE was the one to stand me up after I kindly agreed to finally meet him!! The next night, I shoot him an email telling him how rude and inconsiderate it was of him to not call (I just find it hard to let most things go), and that if he didn't respond, It would be fine, that I just needed him to know. Well, he writes back an apology and asked if he could make it up to me. I tell him to let me know when he wasn't busy so we could hang out. His last email? "For sure." Well, that was almost a week ago. Was he serious in his apology? Only he, God, and maybe some of his friends know : P However, I guess the point of this post/question is to get some sort of FINAL answer to how and why guys do, well, things like I listed above. How can I turn the game on men? Say that situation were turned around. I thought about maybe, to test out this way of some men, I'd shoot him an email, asking something just so far away from flirty like, "how much does your friend charge for a tune up?"
I.E., asking him to do me a favor and get some information for me in terms of getting my car a tune up, but using nothing even remotely flirty in my question. Act as if nothing flirty even happened between us!! Like were just two people who talk as friends. Why not? Guys come back into contact with women ALL of the time nonchalantly, as if they did nothing wrong or as if they suddenly forgot that they were in fact talking to this girl a couple months back, making her think that she may be making a connection with him!! What do you think? How do you guys work? How can I turn the tables? Talk to some guy and then not talk to him until, well, until I feel like it?! How can I keep the GUYS wanting more the same way the guys keep the girls wanting more?! I figure this 'experiment' with the guy I told you about, asking him the price of a tune up at his friends auto shop, might just be enough to get him thinking, "wow, she didn't even ask how I was doing and she wasn't flirty with me like she was before." All those things US women think when a guy all of a sudden re-surfaces in our lives... I'm not trying to trick guys or be mean spirited about this, I would just like to have that 'power' like the guys do...

Scleros

I'm not the best qualified to answer this, but I think you should receive at least one answer.

I'm guilty (*hangs head* ) of having ceased or lapsed contact with a gal in the following situations:
1. No longer interested in the gal.
2. Distracted by another "better" gal that came along.
3. The relationship has stagnated and the guy is tired of limbo/having contact/you on his mind.
4. Inexperienced/intimidated and unsure of whether to contact again.
5. Had a life that didn't revolve around you. We get busy.
6. Guy tires of being the contact initiator. It's a two-way street ladies.

Now, if a guy fails to show up for a pre-arranged date (a first date even!), he is totally not interested and/or not worth your time and you shouldn't tolerate. Seriously, if he failed to show up for a date with no prior notice because he was working, to me that's a no second chances sort of thing. You dump his butt and focus your attention on attracting a better class of man instead of expending your efforts regaining his attention in an attempt to torment him. You typically cannot make a person want you, and usually the harder you try, the less appealing you are, at least to me.