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I recently have been talking to a girl i work with a lot shes 16 (will b 17 in a few months) i just turned 22. Im friends with every one i work with and just started off that way with her till she broke up with her b/f and he went crazy saying he was going to kill her and stuff and harassing her so i steped in and defended her keeping him away from our work and staying there late at night making sure he didnt follow her home or anything. Well along with all this i kinda started liking her and everything and got really close through all these tough times. Is this too much of an age difference at this time or should i stay with her. Do this make me look like im just wanting sex dating someone that much younger? Cause thats what i hear but its not the case im still a virgin and waiting till i get married for that what should i do give me your opinions .
To me, age is only a number. If you like her I say go for it.
I am comfortable with the fact that she is 16 and you are 22 because you say you have no intentions on having sex with her, unless you marry her of course.
Just because you like someone does not mean you are looking for sex, and it wont look bad unless you put those kind of moves on her.
Like I said, if you like her, go for it, but be prepared. Her parents may have an issue with her dating someone so much older. And also, if you DO have sex with her, its illegal and comes with consequences if someone decides to tell on you (like her parents).
well i personally dont agree with you nauticalstar...she is only 16 prolly in the 11th grade... i dont agree... i think you are way to old.... i fell age is nothing but a number when y9ou hit 18 which is legal not 16.... sorry thats my opinion
it may seem that way to people bcuz they may not know ur intentions and plus she is still a minor so maybe u guys should just be friends for a while till she is 18 and then let friendship develop into a relationship
well i personally dont agree with you nauticalstar...she is only 16 prolly in the 11th grade... i dont agree... i think you are way to old.... i fell age is nothing but a number when y9ou hit 18 which is legal not 16.... sorry thats my opinion
I dated an 18 year old when I was 14. I was very mature, more than the other kids my age. When you are mature enough to handle a real relationship, age does not matter.
Ask yourself what you want to become of this relationship. At her age she is almost ready to go away to college, people change alot and it's a huge growing process. I'm not one to say that you shouldn't go for it. Age is just a number.......my wife is 34 and I just turned 27. But I would seriously think about this, weighing the good and bad out
I dated an 18 year old when I was 14. I was very mature, more than the other kids my age. When you are mature enough to handle a real relationship, age does not matter.
Exactly.
Conversely, there are plenty of girls who are well into their 20s and have no goddamn clue how to be in a real relationship.
Age really is just a number; the person's maturity is what really matters.
That said, you should know (and probably already know) that you are going to get A LOT of flak from virtually everyone you know if you start a relationship with this girl (I'm assuming you're in the U.S.; other cultures aren't nearly this judgmental in this regard and even consider 16-year-old girls full adults). Her parents are going to be especially against this, even if you can prove, incontrovertibly, that you are not just looking for sex... which I really don't know how you can do.
Whatever you decide (and do so carefully), good luck!
I dated an 18 year old when I was 14. I was very mature, more than the other kids my age. When you are mature enough to handle a real relationship, age does not matter.
OK YOU WERE 14 DATING A 18 YEAR OLD??? HOW I DONT WANT TO BE RUDE OR ANYTING BUT REALLY HOW DOES THA SOUND??? WHY IS AN 18 YEAR OLD LOOKING FOR A 14 YEAR OLD ANYWAYZ??? I DONT THINK KMATURITY HAS ANYTHING TO DO WSITH IT... AT 14 YOU SHOULD BE PLAY9ING HOUSE OR BARBIES NOT RUNNING AROUND WITH AN 18 YEAR OLD... HE IS DONE WITH SCHOOL OR ABOUT TO BE DONE WITH SCHOOL AND YOUR STILL IN THE WHAT EIGHT GRADE??? NOT ONLY THAT HE IS LEGAL YOUR NOT... NOT DONT GET ME WRONG... I FEEL AGE IS NOTHING BUT A NUMBER BUT REALLY WHERE DO WE DRAW THE LINE?? IM 21 MYBOYFRIEND IS 29 BUT WE ARE EXTREMELY LEGAL... I WAS 18/ AND HE WAS 27 WHEN HE MET... I THINK THAT IS FINE... IM OUTTA SCHOOL HES OUTTA SCHOOL... BUT 14 AND 18??? 16 AND 22??? NOW IF THEIR WASNT A BIG DEAL ABOUT THE AGES THEN WHY IS IT IF YOUR 18 OR 22 AND YOU HAVE SEX WITH A 14 OR 16 YEAR OLD YOU CAN GO TO JAIL FOR RAPE??? NOT SAYING HIS INTENTIONS IS SLEEPING WITH HER BUT HMM... NOW REALLY... MAYBE YALL DONT SEE ANYTHING WRONG WITH IT BUT I CLEARLY DO AND I PERSONALLY THINK THE 14 AND 18 YEAR OLD THING IS TRULY DISGUSTING... THATS MY OPINION... BUT YOU KNOW WHATS RIGHT... SO GO FOR IT...
Conversely, there are plenty of girls who are well into their 20s and have no goddamn clue how to be in a real relationship.
Age really is just a number; the person's maturity is what really matters.
That said, you should know (and probably already know) that you are going to get A LOT of flak from virtually everyone you know if you start a relationship with this girl (I'm assuming you're in the U.S.; other cultures aren't nearly this judgmental in this regard and even consider 16-year-old girls full adults). Her parents are going to be especially against this, even if you can prove, incontrovertibly, that you are not just looking for sex... which I really don't know how you can do.
Whatever you decide (and do so carefully), good luck!
WHEN YOUR 14 YOU SHOULDNT EVEN BE TTHINKING ABOUT BOYS... MATURE OR NOT... HOW AREYOU MATURE AT 14??? YOUR NOT... BUT THEN THE GUY AT 18 ISNT MATURE EITHER... SO WHEN YOU SAY MATURE MAYBE YOU MEAN YOU WERE MORE MATURE THEN HIM... AND WHY STRESS YOURSELF AT 14 ABOUT A "REAL RELATIONSHIP" YOUR JUST LEARNING HOW TO SPELL RELATIONSHIP.... WOW.... I DONTKNOW... I JUST DISAGREE...
Originally Posted by nauticalstar420
I dated an 18 year old when I was 14. I was very mature, more than the other kids my age. When you are mature enough to handle a real relationship, age does not matter.
AGE DOES NOT MATTER??? WHAT IF IT WAS YOUR CHILD??? YOUR GOING TO TELL YOUR 14 YEAR OLD LIKE OH THATS OK THAT HES 18 AND OUTTA SCHOOL AND YOUR FOURTEENAND YOU STILL HAVE A BEDTIME??? DONT THINK SO..... NOT MY CHILD...
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