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I recently have been talking to a girl i work with a lot shes 16 (will b 17 in a few months) i just turned 22. Im friends with every one i work with and just started off that way with her till she broke up with her b/f and he went crazy saying he was going to kill her and stuff and harassing her so i steped in and defended her keeping him away from our work and staying there late at night making sure he didnt follow her home or anything. Well along with all this i kinda started liking her and everything and got really close through all these tough times. Is this too much of an age difference at this time or should i stay with her. Do this make me look like im just wanting sex dating someone that much younger? Cause thats what i hear but its not the case im still a virgin and waiting till i get married for that what should i do give me your opinions .
Conversely, there are plenty of girls who are well into their 20s and have no goddamn clue how to be in a real relationship.
Age really is just a number; the person's maturity is what really matters.
That said, you should know (and probably already know) that you are going to get A LOT of flak from virtually everyone you know if you start a relationship with this girl (I'm assuming you're in the U.S.; other cultures aren't nearly this judgmental in this regard and even consider 16-year-old girls full adults). Her parents are going to be especially against this, even if you can prove, incontrovertibly, that you are not just looking for sex... which I really don't know how you can do.
Whatever you decide (and do so carefully), good luck!
WHEN YOUR 14 YOU SHOULDNT EVEN BE TTHINKING ABOUT BOYS... MATURE OR NOT... HOW AREYOU MATURE AT 14??? YOUR NOT... BUT THEN THE GUY AT 18 ISNT MATURE EITHER... SO WHEN YOU SAY MATURE MAYBE YOU MEAN YOU WERE MORE MATURE THEN HIM... AND WHY STRESS YOURSELF AT 14 ABOUT A "REAL RELATIONSHIP" YOUR JUST LEARNING HOW TO SPELL RELATIONSHIP.... WOW.... I DONTKNOW... I JUST DISAGREE...
At 14 most girls are experinceing hormone changes and they are thinking about boys maybe not in a serious way but they do have bfs. Most girls aren't playing baby dolls and barbies at this age they are starting to experinceing growing up and part of growing up is going through the boy crazy ages that teenage girls go through. Age is just a number shes almost 17 he stated so she could be a senior in high school because I turned 17 the first day as a senior in high school.
ACTUALLY I COULD SAY SOMETHING... WHEN I MET MY BOYFRIEND I WAS 18... WHICH MEANS I WAS OUTTA SCHOOL... I DID NOT HAVE A BEDTIME... SO YOU CANT COMARE ME TO THEM.... WE ARE TOTALLY LEGAL.. IF WE HAVE SEX HE WOULDNT GO TO JAIL FOR RAPE....
The key word is "if".
Not to try and turn this into an all out internet brawl, but we aren't here to judge people. We should be here to answer the guys question. There are far worse situations on here to debate about, and I think that the originator of this question has been up front and honest.
Lets not put the guy on a rotisserie and grill him.
The key word is "if".
Not to try and turn this into an all out internet brawl, but we aren't here to judge people. We should be here to answer the guys question. There are far worse situations on here to debate about, and I think that the originator of this question has been up front and honest.
Lets not put the guy on a rotisserie and grill him.
I KNOW THAT THE GIRL IS 16 ALMOST 17... I SAID WHAT I HAD TO SAY ABOUT THAT... IM NOT KNOCKING HIMFOR THAT... BUT WHEN NAUTICALSTAR420 SAID SHE DATED A 18 YEAR OLD WHEN SHE WAS 14 GOT ME IN A UP ROAR..... I DONT MIND HIM...
Well I'm 19 and my girl is 15. We are in true love now. She is very mature for her age and even looks older than she is. She knows what she wants in life and i respect her decisions. Regardless of this shaunta girl's rediculous comments i think if you are looking for love and not lust, go for it 100%. Of course i had problems with her dad (since her mom was a friend of my mom), but he knows my intentions are only to be with her and not 'in her' if you know what i mean. Love will overcome any obstacle it meets so use it to keep you two together. AGE DOES NOT MATTER!!!!! Let no one tell you otherwise. 6 years is kinda pushing it but God will keep you two together if you let him help out too. I say GO FOR IT DUDE.
Well I'm 19 and my girl is 15. We are in true love now. She is very mature for her age and even looks older than she is. She knows what she wants in life and i respect her decisions. Regardless of this shaunta girl's rediculous comments i think if you are looking for love and not lust, go for it 100%. Of course i had problems with her dad (since her mom was a friend of my mom), but he knows my intentions are only to be with her and not 'in her' if you know what i mean. Love will overcome any obstacle it meets so use it to keep you two together. AGE DOES NOT MATTER!!!!! Let no one tell you otherwise. 6 years is kinda pushing it but God will keep you two together if you let him help out too. I say GO FOR IT DUDE.
THANK YOU!! I knew I wasnt the only person that felt this way!
as long as your not looking for sex man, im happy you found one!
keep her, it might be worth it, good job waiting till your married too! Wish i could've done that, more power to ya my man!!
And i dont care what these people say, always go for love dude, no matter what anyone tells you, or fills you head with because if you dont go after that one, only ONE!, special someone then you will have a very bad life my man... soo dont go believing all this crap about how you shouldn't ATLEAST give it a try man, do it!
Hi,
I think that, that is really nice of you I had someone once do something along those lines for me once and he became so close in my heart but for some reason I couldnt let go of my ex, it still makes me sad cause I really liked that guy because he was so kind hearted but i just couldnt let go, anyway my boyfriends is 28 and im 19 weve been together for over a year and a half and I dont think that your age difference is that big of a deal, the only thing about it is that she is just turning 17 and when i met my boyfriend i was gunna be 18 so it just depends on how you feel about the deference law wise... thats what everyone always joked/talked about with me and my boyfriend when we first got together but its very different now... everyone is fine cause ive been around so long and occasionally we'll joke about it. I think that if you like her and you think shes right for you then ya go for it but having a boyfriend thats all crazy at only 16, its seem maybe like their would be a little bit of baggage with the relationship. I would just be careful because my boyfriend now is not the nicest guy i couldnt let it go because I loved him so much and had been with him, even though not that long we'd been through alot. Even though I really liked the other guy... all iam saying is just be careful you dont get hurt, because with me he did, it was liked I played with his motions unintensionally.
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as long as your not looking for sex man, im happy you found one!
keep her, it might be worth it, good job waiting till your married too! Wish i could've done that, more power to ya my man!!
And i dont care what these people say, always go for love dude, no matter what anyone tells you, or fills you head with because if you dont go after that one, only ONE!, special someone then you will have a very bad life my man... soo dont go believing all this crap about how you shouldn't ATLEAST give it a try man, do it!
I dont get what everyone's freakin problem is anyways. I totally agree, if you think its love, dont pass it up!
He said he wasnt going to be in it for sex, therefore, to get right to the point, its not illegal. Like I said earlier, you might have problems with parents, but you wont go to jail. Other people may say its a bad idea, but not everyone has that opinion. Just remember no matter what, some people will agree, some will disagree, and its just something you'll have to live with.
hey, it's 4 years, and i think if she likes you, and you aren't in ANY way interested in sex, and she's one of those girlst that are really mature for her age, then go for it..... as long as it's because the two of you care for eachother... idk, it's different for people that are older (even with the same difference) than younger..... honestly... the hard part is determining when you get to the point where both people are to the point where 4 years ins't a big difference.... different for a 15 year old and an 11 year old (wich i think would be REDICULOUS), and a 24 and 20 year old......
If your intentions are so good and noble, then you should recognise the problems you could cause her with her family. Part of being mature and responsible is weighing what you want, with whats best for all involved. You may independent, but she is not, and living with parents who are responsible for her. So the question is will this plutonic relationship be a secret, or will everything be done with the blessing of mom and dad? FYI: No way a 22 year old man comes sniffing around my 17 year old daughter. Just an opinion of a Father. Your intentions are irelevant.
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