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a few years apart can be a big difference when youre talking 16 versus 20. as you get into your mid 20s i think the gap can widen a lot.
my aunt is 11 years older than her husband. she married him when she was around 36. fantastic marriage.
my wife is several years older than me. i married her when i was 29. at that time the two previous persons i had dated were 5-6 years younger than me. in the relationships that didnt work with the younger ladies it wasnt the age that kept it from working as much as the mental state (which DOES change over time)
so i guess id say its better just a few years apart at most when youre younger. as you get older, the gap naturally widens more.
I agree with Rick and kp2171. My husband is 5 years older than me, but I am 26 and he is 31 so it's not a big deal. Plus we only met 2 years ago, when we were both well into our 20s. If he'd been trying to date me when he was 20 and I was 15 though, that would have been a bit weird.
I am 10 years older than my wife and it works great for us.
Of course I was 40 when we meet.
If I had been 18 and she was 8, I would have been in jail.
But age has little to do with the relationship and there should not be borders, ( as long as they are of legal age)
It should be what makes each couple happy.
Girls mature faster mentaly than guy do is most cases so a four year difference if you are in your early 20's is a good average. But like others have said if you are at an older age then the difference can be more. If you are 15 to 17 two years is enoughand should not be more.
I happen to believe that age is just a number. If two people fall for eachother then why should age matter? As long as you are both of age (legally) then I don't see that any age gap matters.
Hi, Boswee,
As mentioned, you didn't tell us how old you are, or if you are talking about yourself.
My opinion is that, in general, if both are teens, 2 -3 years maybe.
For say 20 yrs older or up, for both, there is no age limit for a relationship.
A lot depends on the present ages of the people in question. If you are both teenagers then I'd say no more than a year's difference. If you are 20-something then I'd say no more than 5 years difference. If you are both mid-30s or beyond, then it really doesn't matter how far apart your ages are.
As many have mentioned, the difference in age varies by how old you are. From an earlier post, you said that you were 20 soon to be 21.
At 21, there are a lot of things that you can do that she can't. At least legally. And that already got you into big trouble with her mother once.
My opinion:
A 21 year old male shouldn't be dating a woman younger than 20.
A 24 year old man shouldn't be dating a woman younger than 21.
A 30 year old man shouldn't date a woman younger than 25.
After 30, then as long as she is at least 25. But more importantly, what do you have in common? What activities do you both enjoy (other than partying at bars. Sooner or later, one of you will get tired of that and the other won't)
By 30, you have generaly set and started to meet some of your life goals in terms of job, education, housing, etc. Whatever age of the woman, you want someone who has similar lifestyles and who is in agreement with you.
By age 40, the age difference can be greater, because you are both more mature and two people in their twenties.
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