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Sugar sweet · #1 Dec 23, 2005, 12:57 PM

ok,here's my delima. I went out with my boyfriend last year and we broke up during the summer for my family issues. I tried to forget about him and move on. well when school started, a new student came to my neighborhood and we became friends. she started to like him and I told her go head b/c i still like him but htought thaty we woulld never have a second chance. so then like a month in a 1/2 later he told my friend (the one who like himbut he idn't know) that he really likes me never stopped liking me for the six months we had been broken up. well a month later we start ging out, but I didn't take 2 count that she still like him and she got mad at me. and wanted me 2 break up with him. To add 2 that, my best friend and my boyfriend didn't get along at all and she wouldn't talk 2 me when he was around b/c he wasn't very nice 2 her and neither were his friends b/c of what she did 2 him. long story.... but after a month of putting up/w everthing I broke up with him and were on a break until everthing gets sorted uot. but what if everthing doesn't work, what should I do. My other two best friends think that i should just go out/w him but I dont know if i could do that 2 my ohter 2 friends. what should I do?

nymphetamine · Dec 23, 2005, 01:11 PM

Well he did make it clear that he still likes you. Your friend doesnt seem like a real friend if she doesnt want you to be happy just because he is not interested in her. That is selfish. What exactly was it that your best friend did to your boyfriend that makes them not get along? You could try telling your boyfriend and your bestfriend to please makeup and be friends or just realize that not everyone always gets along. I would not put up with him being mean to her though. Tell him and his friends that you understand that they do not like her but she is still your best friend and if they could please just atleast act civilized around her. They dont have to like her but they dont have to add fuel to the fire. And you could ask your best friend to do the same. Maybe they will start to get along and become friends. If he refuses to be nice then maybe hes not worthy as a boy friend in the first place.

Sugar sweet · Dec 23, 2005, 01:17 PM

I dont know really why they dont get along, Their personalities clash. I have tried to work things out between them but I just dont know. U see my best friend doesn't like very many ppl and and has alot on her plates. she takes her anger out my kicking ppl, knowing that shes joking but the guys don't all the time, thats what happened to ben.

nymphetamine · Dec 23, 2005, 02:03 PM

Your friend should seek help for her problem instead of taking them out on other people. I understand that she is your best friend and you probably care alot about her, but in the end because of her actions it will cost you a great deal. Get her to seek some counseling.

fredg · Dec 24, 2005, 05:45 AM

Hi,
You probably have heard that "good friends come and go". It's true. Who is your best friend today, might not be your best friend tomorrow.
I would talk with your ex boyfriend, be honest, truthful about it. If he really cares for you, then get back together.
Your best friends has problems, and you are caught in the middle of it. You might want to consider finding another best friend! People don't change very easily. This probably won't be the last time your best friend causes you problems.



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