You really need to do some reading:
Pole dance - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Pay particular note to the first sentance
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| Originally Posted by Pole Dance is a form of dancing/gymnastics that takes muscular endurance and coordination as well as sensuality. It involves dancing sensually with a vertical pole and is often used in strip clubs and gentlemen's clubs |
This is the reason why your mother is against it, you are, after all, 12 !!