[chacha1259]

15 or 16 years ago, I was to be married. The wedding was called off a few weeks before the wedding. He got upset that night and said he was leaving. A year later he returned, he called me and wanted to try again. I was seeing someone else, so I told him I was in a relationship with this other person and things were going well for us. I married that person, and have made it great!. we've been married for 14 years.
Just recently my ex fiancé contacted me, and said he always thought of me and wondered how things turned out for me. Know that we have talked he would like to keep in touch with me. I told him, I'd have to think about it. My question is: Should I? My husband knows about him, but I just don't know... I need someone else's insight. Please help!

[mitchellmom]

This may clear things up a bit. What benefits would you have from reforming a relationship with this man? IF you have been happy for all these years, why would you want to open up the old can of worms? You have had a good solid relationship, and even though it's flattering to be thought of kindly and often, there is not really a reason to revisit something you have obviously moved past. He will have to deal with his feelings on his own.

[Sad Soul]

The fact that you "don't know" shows that there is the potential for trouble and is a red flag.

He also clearly has some feelings for you so do what is best for him, and do not keep in contact with him. The attention he gives you could also become addictive... which is not fair to your 14 year marriage.