pressed charges on bf

d.ronn · Mar 31, 2012, 10:44 AM

this sounds a petty domestic, you dont have to go to court to give evidence. is this his first offence? he will get a slap on the wrist. he didnt harm you, he pushd you over. and he wont get put on remand monday, the court case will probly be droppd as its all over you pressing charges on sum one who pushd you over. the court arent going to want to waste loads of money dealing with this petty crime seeing as your both together again now. the case will probly get droppd monday

leahlovesneal · Mar 31, 2012, 11:02 AM

well it over over that he pushed me over, we had an argument in an shopping center and the police took me home, and cause hes been in trouble with the police loads of time before they don't like him. they told me they want me press charges so i did and they put in the statement he kicked me and that but hes been to court about it already and they cant see nothing on the CCTV footage, and two witnesses don't want attend to give evidence, so they want me to give evidence and if i don't they will get an warren out to my arrest, but i said i am remaining silence in court anyways, and we got go court 23rd April, that when they said i have got to go, xx

leahlovesneal · Mar 31, 2012, 11:04 AM

well it over over that he pushed me over, we had an argument in an shopping center and the police took me home, and cause hes been in trouble with the police loads of time before they don't like him. they told me they want me press charges so i did and they put in the statement he kicked me and that but hes been to court about it already and they cant see nothing on the CCTV footage, and two witnesses don't want attend to give evidence, so they want me to give evidence and if i don't they will get an warren out to my arrest, but i said i am remaining silence in court anyways, and we got go court 23rd April, that when they said i have got to go, xx

leahlovesneal · Mar 31, 2012, 11:06 AM

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Originally Posted by d.ronn

this sounds a petty domestic, you dont have to go to court to give evidence. is this his first offence? he will get a slap on the wrist. he didnt harm you, he pushd you over. and he wont get put on remand monday, the court case will probly be droppd as its all over you pressing charges on sum one who pushd you over. the court arent going to want to waste loads of money dealing with this petty crime seeing as your both together again now. the case will probly get droppd monday

well it over over that he pushed me over, we had an argument in an shopping center and the police took me home, and cause hes been in trouble with the police loads of time before they don't like him. they told me they want me press charges so i did and they put in the statement he kicked me and that but hes been to court about it already and they cant see nothing on the CCTV footage, and two witnesses don't want attend to give evidence, so they want me to give evidence and if i don't they will get an warren out to my arrest, but i said i am remaining silence in court anyways, and we got go court 23rd April, that when they said i have got to go, xx

Fr_Chuck · Mar 31, 2012, 11:58 AM

I guess telling you to stay away from him and leave him won't be listened to. This is how it starts in domestic abuse. As a police officer I have seen it over and over.
They beat you and you want them arrested, then the next day will spend all the money you have to bail them out.

They may arrest you for contempt of court if you don't testify.

Of course the the next time he will beat you harder, But that is ok , you will learn to live with it, even come to expect it. He will blame you and you will accept the beatings as your fault.

JudyKayTee · Apr 1, 2012, 09:48 AM

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Originally Posted by d.ronn

this sounds a petty domestic, you dont have to go to court to give evidence. is this his first offence? he will get a slap on the wrist. he didnt harm you, he pushd you over. and he wont get put on remand monday, the court case will probly be droppd as its all over you pressing charges on sum one who pushd you over. the court arent going to want to waste loads of money dealing with this petty crime seeing as your both together again now. the case will probly get droppd monday

Please post your reference on this - she DOES have to go to Court and she can be FORCED to go to Court.

He put his hands on her. That's assault and that's abuse. Those are criminal acts.

All he did was push her over? You can't be serious!

She doesn't get to decide whether the case moves forward. She can withdraw, refuse to testify and anything in between and it can and possibly will go forward.

The mindset of the OP is beyond my comprehension but ...

At any rate your legal advice is straight out, dead wrong and you do a disservice to every man and woman whose "partner" EVER laid a hand on him or her. It's not an "only" situation.

odinn7 · Apr 1, 2012, 12:19 PM

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Originally Posted by d.ronn

he didnt harm you, he pushd you over. and he wont get put on remand monday, the court case will probly be droppd as its all over you pressing charges on sum one who pushd you over. the court arent going to want to waste loads of money dealing with this petty crime

That's just plain stupid. He pushed her over and that's ok. Next time when he hits her, that will be ok too. Then when he kicks her in the head, that will also be ok. Absolute stupid answer. None of this is ever ok and to suggest that it is, plain STUPID.

To the OP...why are you back with him? You should be testifying against him and leaving him. If he did it once, he's 99% sure to do it again but worse this time around. Things aren't going to get any better with this tough guy who thinks that abusing women is ok.

leahlovesneal · Apr 1, 2012, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by odinn7

That's just plain stupid. He pushed her over and that's ok. Next time when he hits her, that will be ok too. Then when he kicks her in the head, that will also be ok. Absolute stupid answer. None of this is ever ok and to suggest that it is, plain STUPID.

To the OP...why are you back with him? You should be testifying against him and leaving him. If he did it once, he's 99% sure to do it again but worse this time around. Things aren't going to get any better with this tough guy who thinks that abusing women is ok.

he didn't kick me or hit me we was arguing in an shopping centre and i told him it was over so he got pissed of and pushed me and wouldnt leave when the people told him to, so he got arrested and my got pressured into pressing charges since then i havnt want it continued

JudyKayTee · Apr 1, 2012, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by leahlovesneal

he didn't kick me or hit me we was arguing in an shopping centre and i told him it was over so he got pissed of and pushed me and wouldnt leave when the people told him to, so he got arrested and my got pressured into pressing charges since then i havnt want it continued

I have no idea what some of this says BUT I'm reading that you got into an argument in public (I have no idea if he pushes you in public how he treats you in private - public behavior is usually good behavior). "He didn't kick or hit [you]" so I'm guessing you think pushing you is acceptable.

You got pressured into pressing charges - who pressured you and the Police didn't need you to press charges - and now you want to drop the charges so that he can abuse you again.

You think as long as he didn't hit or kick you his behavior is acceptable.

Do I have it right?

You are aware that if you retract your statement you've submitted a false Police Report, right? Then he'll be out of jail and you'll be in jail.

How old are the two of you - or did you post that and I missed it?

I'm surprised a member of your family hasn't explained to him how to treat a woman. For that matter, why do you have such a low opinion of yourself that you not only allow his behavior but are attempting to explain it away?

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