K,, mom found out we were dateing.. she has a right to be upset and worried and mad but he's been keeping me out of trouble, he makes me think.. more than usual.. and he has some of the HIGHEST standards i've ever heard of.. Im not allowed to see or talk to him untill i move out.. mom said when i turn 18 i still cant see him.. she'll put him in jail.. and im torqued. Please dont comment saying im young and just dont know what i want, I know myself better than anyone and im 100% serious about this guy. What do i do?

excon

Hello Lacy:

This doesn't have anything to do with YOU. It has everything to do with your boyfriend. This is HIS life we're talking about here - not YOURS.

I'm sure you are old enough to make up your own mind, but the law doesn't agree with you. If your mom calls the cops, the cops aren't going to care that you love him and that you're very adult. Nope, they're gonna throw his butt in the slam, keep him there a good long while, and them call him a sex offender for the rest of his life. Given that most towns are making laws that prevent sex offenders from living there, he's gonna be a homeless sex offender.

So, if you love HIM, wait till you're not jail bait.

excon

benn11

I know you like him, but the poor guy will go to jail if you sleep with him. Law states that you are still a minor and can't make rational decisions. I think you can date him but you are not allowed to go beyond that.

rowan16

if you love him carry on. if it is a 'mistake' its yours to make. explane carmly to your mum she will have 2 learn to exept it!!! my m8s 16 next week 7months pregnant, her and her 22yr boyfriend are truley in love!GOOD LUCK

templelane

It was too easy to give you a reddie, fish in a barrel comes to mind.

In a weird way it was good advice


Says it all really 16 and pregnant!!! I don't think there are many people, pregnant 16 year olds included who think this is a good idea. Good luck to her and all but if the OP has an ounce of sense she'll understand where I'm coming from. Wait a couple of years if he really is the one for you he'll wait as well.

Fr_Chuck

Your mom has your best interest at heart and she is right, and no at 15 you don't have the slightest idea really what is best for you, you only think you do.

ScottGem

No its not just hers to make, that's part of what is wrong here. Your mate is lucky he's not in jail. And I really doubt if they are "truly in love". Few 16 year olds really know what true love is. And a 22 year old that thinks he's in love with a 16 year old, particularly one that has unprotected sex with that 16 yr old, is too immature to understand love as well.

But even if your mate and his gf buck the odds and make it, they are the exception. Its irresponsible to advise a minor and an adult to carry on such a relationship.

CaptainForest

Is everyone reading something here that I am missing?

Because I can’t find where this person is from.

If she is anywhere in Canada for example, age of consent is 14. So her being 15 and him 22, is nothing illegal what so ever with it.

Synnen

What should you DO?

You should WAIT until you can see this guy without having to sneak behind your mom's back. Obviously, if she "found out about it", you'd been lying to your mum. I'd be upset too!

That being said...there's no WAY my 15 year old would be dating a 22 year old. I have higher standards for my daughter than that. No matter how mature you are, you are at a completely different stage of life---let's put it this way: would you date a 10 year old? How about an 88 year old? No? Well, why not? Because you have nothing in common with them, right? It's gross because one is way too young, and the other way too old. Well...if you'd date a 22 year old, why would't you date a 30 year old? Age doesn't matter, right?

It does matter, and you know it. He's supposed to be trying to make his career, not trying to make it with a little girl (and if you can't see why I'm making this argument, you really ARE a little girl who needs to do some serious growing up before she should be dating).

YOU should be focusing on school and getting into college, not guys that are trying to get into your pants.

Greg Quinn

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And that is why I'm waiting to get that info before I pipe in.

ScottGem

Is it that straightforward? In many places, (not just US states), even if the minor is above the age of consent, where there is a large gap in ages, it could still be illegal.