K,, mom found out we were dateing.. she has a right to be upset and worried and mad but he's been keeping me out of trouble, he makes me think.. more than usual.. and he has some of the HIGHEST standards i've ever heard of.. Im not allowed to see or talk to him untill i move out.. mom said when i turn 18 i still cant see him.. she'll put him in jail.. and im torqued. Please dont comment saying im young and just dont know what i want, I know myself better than anyone and im 100% serious about this guy. What do i do?

Maricruz

O.K. I won't tell you he is too old for you, but he could go to jail for dating you if you do things best reserved for adults, if you know what I mean. Once you turn 18 though you are legally an adult and your mom cannot put him in jail at that time. Right now, it's a different story.
If he does have the "high standards" that you mention, he will keep the relationship proper, nothing wrong with having a friend much older than you, if you indeed keep the relationship as a good friendship. Anything more than that, and there will be trouble.

CaptainForest

Where do you live?

Greg Quinn

Yeah...I can't give that accurate of legal advice if I have no idea what state or province you are in. That would be scary and irresponsible. Wanna help though

Greg Quinn

I have had friends when I was around 15 that dated 21 22 23 yr old guys, I have to admit it was weird then, but I still know one couple that are amazing still. Kids... nice house loyalty. Ya just really never know.

Emland

If you love him, you will wait. If you don't you run the risk of him getting arrested for statutory rape and/or child molestation. Do you want him on a sex offenders list for the rest of his life?

I can understand that you may love him. I cannot understand what a grown man of 22 would want with a 10th grader, besides the obvious.

Emland

I guess I was making a presumption. I'm sure his interest lies in her opinion of how Nietzsche influenced HL Mencken.

jhmmr

When me and my husband had net I had just turned 16 and he was turning 23. my mom could've put him in jail but didn't and then kicked me out 6 months later. We have been together ever since we have our own place and a baby! If you truly feel that way about him wait, but don't give up. everyone thinks they just want to be with you for one thing but they haven't the slightest idea until they are in your shoes. Everyone knows a couple that have a gap in age between them!

ScottGem

Two things bother me about your post. First you say he's got such high standards. Well I hate to tell you this but any adult that would date a 15 year old does NOT have high standards. I doubt you will believe me, but I know what I'm saying is true. Second you say you know yourself better than anyone. I'm sure that is true, but at 15, you haven't had enough life experience to properly deal with a situation like this.

Some other things to wonder about is where you met and why you started dating and for how long this has been going on. I can perfectly understand a 15 yr old girl being thrilled by a 22 yr old guy's attention. But I can't understand what a 22 yr old guy, presumably a college senior or grad, would see in a 15 yr old girl (other than the physical attraction).

I know you don't want to hear this either, but you mom is doing the right thing because she loves you and is rightfully concerned about this situation.

If you truly love each other, then 3 years will not make a difference in that love. So wait until you are 18, more for his sake to keep him out of jail and off the sex offenders list.

ScottGem

There is an age gap and then there is a age GAP. A 7 year gap is nothing when both parties are adults. But when one or both of them are minors, it IS a problem. Do they work sometimes, sure? But most of the time they don't. Most of the time, the adult is exploiting the minor.

The advice to wait but not give up is good.

However you don't say how old you are now or whether you are married or not. I wouldn't say you are one of the exceptions unless you are together for 10 or more years.