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My husband is corrently in prison as a sex offender.
The victim was my dauther his stepdauther.
My three dauther's and I have forgave him for what he did.
He has repeatly asked my dauther the (victim) to forgive him for what he did.
My dauther(victim) cried because she said that she wants her father.
She doesnt look at the situation as a painful experience anymore, niether do I. We believe in change and forgiveness. Sure I would'nt be able to just be as before, but my dauthers want there Dad. What do I do about the Law? How can he see his Kids? They want to see there father.In my heart I feel he will NOT do this again. what can we do?
This question upset me so badly that I fumed about it for several hours last night. I have a little daughter, and the mere thought of it just made me so angry. Everything I do in life, since the day she was born, has been for her or in her best interest. I know from experience that there are parents out there who have no business raising kids. And social services rarely does enough to protect them. I've experienced situations where everyone knows that abuse is occurring, but the little girl is too afraid to speak up because either the abuser or the enabler has convinced her that being removed from the home is worse than being abused.
I think everyone in your family needs therapy. You must not be thinking clearly. How could anyone forgive someone that touched their child. I know he didn't rape her, but it doesn't make it okay. He is obviously a sick man, don't let him near your kids.
My husband is corrently in prison as a sex offender.
The victim was my 14 year old dauther his stepdauther. my husband did not have sex with her!
My three dauther's and I have forgave him for what he did.
He has repeatly asked my dauther the (victim) to forgive him for what he did.
My dauther(victim) cried because she said that she wants her father.
She doesnt look at the situation as a painful experience anymore, niether do I. We believe in change and forgiveness. Sure I would'nt be able to just be as before, but my dauthers want there Dad. What do I do about the Law? How can he see his Kids? They want to see there father.In my heart I feel he will NOT do this again. what can we do?
What are we to understand? That you husband molested your daughter. You tell you daughter that God wants her to forgive him so in order to please her mother she cries for her father.
This question upset me so badly that I fumed about it for several hours last night. I have a little daughter, and the mere thought of it just made me so angry. Everything I do in life, since the day she was born, has been for her or in her best interest. I know from experience that there are parents out there who have no business raising kids. And social services rarely does enough to protect them. I've experienced situations where everyone knows that abuse is occurring, but the little girl is too afraid to speak up because either the abuser or the enabler has convinced her that being removed from the home is worse than being abused.
I hate that you were upset about this issue, however please understand that my dauther is fourteen years old and she is old enough to tell me her feelings. we were at a store and I asked her "what's wrong"? she said "I want Daddy". Mind you this was a shock to me I went to my sister/Friend and said to my friend her dad did this !! she wants to see him. I was shocked and in confusion somewhat. you guys must understand that if this was a smaller child that didnt understand this ordeal then I wouldnt want to ask anyone this question. I am not trying to be weird niether do I want to affect anyone in a negitive way.
Oh, I understand. So do all these fine people. I understand that you "feel" he won't do it again, and I understand that he wants to come back home. I CLEARLY understand......
What YOU DON'T understand, is that the LAW, the COURTS and his PROBATION OFFICER will NEVER let that happen. So, it doesn't matter what any of you want.
Yes, we understand. We understand that molesters are master manipulators. He may have brainwashed her into believing that this is love and that this is what "Daddys" do. But it is not and she needs some INTENSE counseling. PERIOD.
This is sick, sick, sick. You need to teach her that what he did was wrong and that he doesn't love her.
Also YOU are the parent. You should be telling her that what he did was wrong and that because he hurt her he cannot see her again.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE get her into some counseling. You can get low cost to no cost counseling through your town's mental health department or as J-9 pointed out on another post through a university's psychology program.
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