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My ex who is 18 now lost her virginity a then 27 year old when she was 16, this being northern ireland she was just a minor.
No one knows about this apart from me and a few of her friends. I want him to pay for what he did as i see it being sexual abuse.
Do i have any right in reporting it to someone, even her parents, she said it took two to tango but i just cant accept that. She has begged me not too and t be honest im tryin to get her back so this would actually lessin my chances of that.
EDIT: WHEN I SAY GET HER BACK I DONT MEAN REVENGE, I MEAN GET HER BACK INTO MY LIFE.
The problem is that he is a free presbyterian and acts like he is saved, he certainly isnt anymore as this happened not so long ago. Everyone seems to think he is a nice guy but i dont want to be seen as the bad guy if i do report him. my ex begged me not too when i first heard about it.
I feel that if i did report him, even to her parents then i would completly lose her altogether, its tearing me apart inside but by keeping quiet i still have some hope that she will come back.
I think it is up to her to make that decision. Please don't act on jealousy, you could tear a bunch of lives apart with this, including your own. I am not saying what he and she did was right, I am just saying that there might be another reason she doesn't want to come out with this. I think it is awful that he took advantage of her age. I know you are upset about it. Sorry you are feeling this way. If it were up to me, I would let her take care of it.
I think it is up to her to make that decision. Please don't act on jealousy, you could tear a bunch of lives apart with this, including your own. I am not saying what he and she did was right, I am just saying that there might be another reason she doesn't want to come out with this. I think it is awful that he took advantage of her age. I know you are upset about it. Sorry you are feeling this way. If it were up to me, I would let her take care of it.
yes you are right, she was the one it happened too.
You have to understand though that she went into great detail about what happened, and the worst part is that everyone likes and trusts this guy, what if he did it again to another girl? maybe even younger?
he was tryin to chat up one of her friends just 6 months ago, he said he couldnt get anyone his own age, it worries me
Now that would worry me too. You know what, maybe you should have a talk with him. Is he a violent guy? Could it do him some good to know that other people DO know about what happened?
Now that would worry me too. You know what, maybe you should have a talk with him. Is he a violent guy? Could it do him some good to know that other people DO know about what happened?
I dont personally know the guy, i have seen his bebo and know what he acts like. She has told me many stories about him. He seems like a nice guy but really he is involved with some dodgy stuff.
She has asked me to stay away from him as i was going to confront him about it, he had phoned me girl saying they had chemistry together, this was when i was seeing her, he asked did she love me. It does worry me that he may do it again, i dont know what to do, i want my girl to trust me but i dont want some other poor girls innocence lost.
I think that if you are honestly worried about this grown man around young girls then something should be said. But, there is some jealousy in your voice, so I can't really tell if you are really worried or if you just want to have revenge........
I think that if you are honestly worried about this grown man around young girls then something should be said. But, there is some jealousy in your voice, so I can't really tell if you are really worried or if you just want to have revenge........
to be honest its a bit of both, maybe i should just leave it alone.
I love her and the thought of a man doin what he did, he took her virginity and thats something i can never share with her.
It isn't your say. If it was consensual then its not your call. You aren't her parents. Let it be. If you do there wont be a chance of you being together. So its your call.
16 is old enough to have sex with a 60 year old if she wanted. I was forced to move across the country because when i was 15 i had sex with a 21 year old, who is now my fiance, who waited for me until i got back, who i love very much... Im now 18 and dont regret it a bit.
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