Ok important question. Case Scenario:Someone was just released from Federal prison back in July 2005 and is currently on Federal probation.
During this past weekend, this person was driving home drunk-made it all the way to the neighborhood, but passed out behind the wheel and rolled into a parked car. Oh that is not all. The police woke this person up, only to find about 8-9 grams of cocaine (or in his words "2-8 balls) in his pocket. They then searched the house and found no more evidence of drugs.

So he calls his probation officer and she gets all the info-was kind of pissed off-but then said for him to call her on Monday if she does not contact him before hand.

My question: Do you think he will go back to prison for this violation?
He did get a DUI, no ticket for the cocoain (do you even get a ticket for that kind of thing?) is it possible for the police to just let him go on this? The cocoain would be a state thing, but the possession of a controlled substance is a federal charge-I don't know I am so confused!!!! He has a drug counselor he has to report to a couple times per month and he said he was about 90 % sure that this person would not go back to prison but I don't see how he couldn't. It's cocoain!
Does anyone have a professional opinon? or just an opinion at all? I am trying to plan my future accordingly to this situation. (ex: finances/bills, etc...)
Obviously, there are more details, but I have given you the major rundown of the situation.
Your thoughts are appreciated... Thank you.

kp2171

the question is in those 7 years how has he made your life better?

i think you've done more than your share of compromise and helping... really an unhealthy amount, i think.

some people refuse to be saved, helped, or change.

its time for you to expect better for yourself, which means not doing the same things over and over.

Depressed in MO

you are absolutely right which is why I am ready to let him go. Do you think i am bogus for letting him go now that he may go to prison? I am the only person that can help him (according to him). At least, in the past, I was the only person to help him. Even though he has been a jerk, I don't want to hurt him...we have a lot of ties and history together...

Fr_Chuck

You let him go if you don't want to be with him or love him.

History, don't want to hurt, you stay because you love him, want to be with him, not because of memory or guilt

kp2171

you are not abandoning him. he has left you. he knows the consequences of his actions. it is unrealistic to think you owe him your life and the lives of your children.

i'm not saying to leave (tho i think you should) and never talk to him again. thats not my place, its your call. i know some good people who have done bad things, and i know one in particular who is an addict ...to whatever... drugs, sex, money, ...

he says you are the only one that can help him. that is manipulation. and the words of a man who lacks the courage to take responsibility for himself.

as a religious person, i'd say God could do a lot for the man.

as an adult, i'd say he's passively trying to trap you, that he's scared he'll lose you, but he wasn't scared enough to clean up his act.

he might have good intentions, just bad mental wiring. you might be one of the only people who saw the good in him.

i'm sorry. that's not enough. at least for me. life throws us all curves, and some people never get a break. but there is a difference between those who are trying to claw their way out and those who dig themselves deeper.

have no guilt. be ok with the sadness. demand better for yourself.

Depressed in MO

Of course I love him, I will always love him. I'm just hurting so bad inside because of all that is going on. I'm scared of going through what I have already went through twice before...