I have a friend in my neighborhood who is being harassed by his next door neighbor. He's calling the city on all kinds of violations ( some warranted), he looks into my friends home, spies on his wife, peeks over his fence, and is generally making his life miserable. Has anyone else had a neighbor like this, and what can my friend do? P.S. I also have a very annoying neighbor with bratty kids and would also like to know what the best option is for these kinds of neighbors. Thanks. - Sassy in Maryland

mr.yet

Have Been Speak Directly To Them, Tell Them To Mind Their Own Business, And Stay Of Their Property,. If They Continue, Call The Police. Post The Property, Make It Clear To Them No Contract.

CaptainForest

Tell them to leave your friend alone. If he continues to come on yo your friends property and stuff, go to the police and report harrasment.

your neighbour has bratty kids? so what? how does that affect you? Are they damaging your property or something?

Fr_Chuck

call in violations( if they are warranted, they need to fix these problems so they will not get called in. If my neighbor had trash in the yard, or a old car sitting, or windows broken out, reducing the value of my property, they would have the code inforcement at thier house every day.

spy on wife, in what way, watches her from thier yard or follows her on public street. If excessive it may be stacking but most liekly not.

Peaking over fence, sorry if they are on thier property, they could set up a video camera if they wanted to, not that they should, but if it is on thier property.

Looking into thier house? from the street, from thier own property ??


Let me see, build larger and taller wood fense that they can not peak over. Put reflective material in windows that can not be seen though easy, and be sure to have blinds and keep them closed.

There are alot of legal things you can do that will make your next door neighbors life a living hell.

If they come onto your property, you can post it and call for thier trespass if they come on your property.

I built a 10 high fence out of wood at one place we lived because of a neighbor.

Sassy4556

well, let's see...about the bratty kids. they hang out at times in front of my home, screaming and dropping all kinds of trash. They have trespassed on my neighbors property, the girl has actually looked in my neighbors bedroom window ( while standing in my neighbors yard), they have put other children up to ringing our doorbell and running, disrupted the neighborhood, caused fights, spoken to my oldest son and told him lies about ppl vandalizing our property, just general nuisances. and yes, it does affect me because they don't mind their own business.

Sassy4556

Thanks so much for your reply. Yes, i've advised him to document everything. You're right, neighbors can make your life a living hell. This neighbor has only been there for 2 years, and has already caused major problems. He and his wife are childless, and my friend has 4 kids. He's a good dad, and his wife is a good mother, but the neighbors really want them gone. They are a snooty, upper middle class couple that moved into a diverse neighborhood where not all things are perfect. I truly believe they want my friend and his family to move.

hi3456

I'VE HAD ENOUGH

Maybe your friends deserve what they're getting Sally. Since the day I moved in several years ago my neighbors have been calling me name's such as "gringa" and threatening to kill me. They've written racist remarks and gang insignia in chalk on my driveway. My neighbor's children have tried to spread slander calling me a "whore" and a "trick" through the walls. I feel like I'm being sexually harassed with their slander, but because they are only five to ten year old children they can't get in trouble for it. They throw garbage in my driveway, and hang out in front of my door making all sorts of noise. They kick my wall and slam things into my door, and then act completely innocent pretending that they have done nothing. When I go to the bathroom, they laugh loudly enough for me to hear my privacy is being invaded. They call me a "playahater", and the adults have threatened to kill me and set me up. Whenever they call me a "playahater" I respond by saying, "that's because there's nothing worth loving." Their friends who sit out on the curb drinking 40's in front of my home with the street people and gangsters have threatened if I call the cops they will frame me for their crimes. Then when I get mad and yell at them they all become quiet and act like I'm crazy and we're all living in the picture perfect neighborhood. The threats continue, but I'm afraid to call the cops because they have threatened to set me up as a "trick". Whenever these little six year old children call me a "trick" I feel as if they are actually violating me. I've warned them that if they continue to spread slander against me calling me "trick" I will report it as sexual harassment. What are these people? Some sort of sociopath? They have also threatened to kill my cat and eat it for dinner. These are several sets of neighbors doing this at once, and they are all friendly with eachother. I've been using tactics with them, and it's better getting better, but I don't want it to ever go back to how it was before again. I want this to stop completely, but when I speak to authorities they refuse to do anything about it. Whenever I do anything to vituperate them people act like I'm the one that is wrong. I need some suggestions for how to get back at these people and keep them in line without having to break the law or turn to the law and set myself up to be predated by their gangsters. I need to get control of this situation fast.

RubyPitbull

Hi, it might have been easier if you had created your own post and not piggybacked your problem onto a post that is over a year old. Due to it's age, I don't think any of the original posters will see yours. But, at least I have found it and someone else may stop by.

I see that you are frustrated and angry. I wish I had an answer for you but your post is confusing to me.


I have pulled this out of your post because it disturbs me. Why would you want to "get back at these people?" Forgive me, but that doesn't sound like a mature adult wanting to resolve a conflict with children. Instead of "getting back" at them, you should be trying to figure out a way to put an end to all this. You all don't have to like each other, but if you can find a way to resolve the conflicts, you will be able to quietly enjoy your lives again. Frankly, this sounds like there is a problem that stems from a difference in ethnicity rather than unprovoked harassment by some neighborhood kids. I do apologize if this offends you, but I have to question why ALL of them seem to be ganging up on you. That just doesn't make sense to me. Why would they be doing this? It can't just be because you are a "gringa" and they aren't, could it? I can see how small children will follow the lead of older ones, but this had to stem from an original disagreement with one person for this kind of harrassment to get to this point. Was there a specific incident that lead to this buildup of apparent enmity? Can you elaborate please? I will try my best to come up with a constructive solution, as I am sure others on this forum will do as well, if you can help us to understand this whole situation better.

rcutting

I can sympathize with your friend fully, Sassy. My family and I were also harassed by neighbors a few years back and it is extremely disheartening. Do you have an email address where we could communicate directly to each other?

rcutting

rcutting

Sassy, I can sympathize with your friend fully, as my family and I were harassed by neighbors a few years back. Do you have an email address so that we could communicate to each other directly?