hi there is something really bothering me the last few weeks.im living in a fairly quiet area for the last 2 years with my fiance and 3 kids.my fiance grew up in this area and has lived there all her life.a couple of months ago she told me a story of a young boy who she knew and played with as kids was molested by a man who lived on the road.the man did time in prison for it and that poor family ended up having to move over the whole thing.this happened over 15 years ago,heres the thing the house were it happened has been put up for sale as the mother of the offender passed away,but who shows up and is staying there till the house is sold only the offender,hes been there the last few weeks now and im dreading to say i feel hes going to do it again as there are a lot of kids about and for some reason play near his house.its like a magnet when the kids are there he comes straight out of the house to talk to them.i think he knows im watching him as i give him dirty looks and think out loud and curse him.theres a lot of new familys on the street and wouldnt be aware of what he did.what should i do,say something to him and let him know i know ,say to the childrens parents or call the police as i think hes a ticking time bomb,any advice would help as its playing on my mind alot thanks in advance for your help.

southerngalps

The police are already aware of his actions. He has been imprisoned for them. The only thing that can be done is letting the parents of the neighborhood know. The guy hasn't molested again YET!! The parents will take precautions to let it not happen again!!

liverpool75

i know what your saying but all the police will say he is not commiting any crime now,although its going through his mind to possibly to molest another kid talking to them is ok in the eyes of the law.seriously this is making me feel sick knowing that theres nothing i can or the police can do.the harse reality is the police wont do anything untill it happens and by then it would be too late for some young inocent kid.

MsMewiththat

okay, she is a he first off. Although I may be busy I am not a busy body, nor am I old. Secondly, he did witness something, he it witnessed a grown man with no children (with a conviction for runnin up in some little boy, spending too much time with children). Third.. he witnessed this same individual taking a picture of a child, again that is not his child. This is all inappropriate behavior for anyone in today's day and I believe that this particular person should error on the side of caution. As stated previously, it would be one thing for him to avoid these children, it is questionable that he chooses not to. Think what you want but please spare the next one.

Synnen

Wait...so your fiancee told you about something that happened 15 years ago, and you completely believe her version of events, and are trying to make some guy's life miserable because of it?

While it's good to trust your mate, have you done ANY checking into the background of this? There's a kid in Georgia who has been accused and sentenced for "molesting a child" --the 15 year old girl who offered him head. He's a sex offender forever for that act--and will be judged a pervert in the eyes of people everywhere for it.

How old was your fiancee when this happened? Does she have ALL of the details? Have YOU checked those details with police reports and information about the trial?

Maybe I'm being harsh, but there are a lot of people out there who, 15-20 years ago did something not-so-kosher, but not EVIL either, and are being judged for it today, and lead limited lives, and have people like you tell the entire neighborhood what a creep he is.

As to all the vigilantes out there who want to string this guy up for something he's already "paid for" by serving time in jail--well, the time to string the guy up was 15 years ago, if his crime was that bad. Legally, you have NOTHING on this guy. So he talks to kids? I do too! I don't have kids, and I offer the neighborhood kids candy and treats and smiles all the time. Sometimes kids are the only people who do NOT judge you, and treat you like vermin.

By all means, protect your kids. Keep them away from this guy without adult supervision, absolutely.

But I seriously hope that none of you call yourselves Christian, because none of you are showing compassion, charity, or forgiveness toward this man.

southerngalps

thanks for the balance synnen

MsMewiththat

Hey fello MNton, I am a christian and have compassion, am very empathetic as well. I assumed they new the details and had them confirmed. What was interperted was creepy to me. I think there is a range of variation to the title sex offender and you are correct, some get the title unjustly. There are definitions and levels to the registry. My hope is that they will be cautious with this particular individual. We are aware in today's world that certain level offenders are predisposed to reoffend. You offering candy to the kids in your neighborhood is probably not an accurate comparison.?.<-- maybe you too are a former offender if so, hey, I'm happy to know that you don't get the desire to re-offend. What is very real is that these people have a disease, one that they can't control. I meant no harm, simply to ask this person not to ignore that gut feeling that something isn't passing the smell test and secondly to make everyone around them that may not have the benefit of this persons history or the benefit of a registry, aware that he is residing in there back yards. Let's say they don't have the benefit of the registry in the country they are living in. It won't hurt to make the authorities aware. I don't believe that he should be disrespected or inconvenienced. Just make them aware. It can't hurt. It's not meant to be overly judgmental just cautious. By the way Synnen, your signature regarding touching your girls is an interesting one, would you prefer we all take matters into our own hands?

Synnen

No, I don't think people should take it into their own hands...my sig is part of an old, old joke from a thread that's been closed nearly a year now...I just haven't made the effort to change it.

I'm also not Christian, though, either--so I tend to have a more "live and let live" attitude toward a lot of things.

I was really just pointing out that there was a LOT of judgement against this man all based on the word of the fiancee of the poster, who may or may not have been a child herself at the time. Without having the full details of what happened years ago--no, I don't think that people should be saying that someone is a child molester who is after their kids without some sort of evidence to back it up. Anything else is slander and hearsay, frankly. I mean, I could go to YOUR neighborhood and start telling people that you're a sex offender that I heard molested a young boy 15 years ago--and you'd sue my pants off when/if you tracked it back to me, whether or not it had a kernal of truth in it.

So...all I was asking for was FACTS rather than hearsay before passing judgement, and I felt that people were pretty harsh about the whole thing without having the details of the situation.

N0help4u

I agree with the others that the police would say 'as long as he is not commiting a crime'
You might want to check up on Megan's law and other child predator sites and learn what his rights are and what are violations by a child predator. While you are at it check to see if he is listed on any of those sites. Maybe you could organize a general meeting at the school or somewhere and go over general precautions with parents and what to tell their children for safety.

cambie30

You should tell the parents of the child[s],
you shouldnt confront him just encase of any violece occurs.