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we got married at her church and now she is suggesting for a baby girl to be baptised at her church but, i kinda want her to have her christining at my church?
this religion thing between us didnt come to my mind at all when i married her. i truly love her but need some advice.
I honeslty dont go to church as much as she does (i stay at home on sundays, while she takes our baby to her church)
I really need some advice on what to do and maybe someone can clear my head on what the difference is..I know it sounds stupid!
Situations just like this could have been avoided well in advance by heeding the Bible's counsel that Christians "marry only in the Lord", meaning that people are to marry fellow believers, not those of different faiths. Problems such as this (and a host of other ones as well) were well foreseen for interfaith marriages.....hence that clear-cut scriptural counsel.
They did marry into the same faith! THEY ARE BOTH CHRISTIANS. Did you not read the other posts? Did you read the question?
Sorry TL, but they did NOT marry into the same faith. Yes, they are both Christians, but he is a Roman Catholic and she is a "christian" (whether it be Baptist, Presbyterian or the like).
Christianity engulfs a wide array of denominations. In the Catholic faith it is frowned upon to marry outside of the Catholic religion. This is the same with other denominations. A Baptist is to marry a Baptist, a Methodist is to marry another Methodist, etc.
Ah we seam to have a different defination of what 'faith' is. I think all Christianity is one faith seperate form say Judaism. But I would consider a Baptist and a Catholic to be of the same faith but different denomination. This is where I have got confused.
I still can't see how if they are both Christian they managed to not "marry only in the Lord" seing as they both worship the Lord Jesus Christ. Isn't that still marrying into the Lord?
I know it's frowned upon to marry outside Catholism because it caused a lot of strife for my own family. The whole messy situation just really annoys me so much trouble has been caused where I live form Sectarian tensions of this description.
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Sorry for any offence caused, I'm getting all worked up over this and I don't know why. Too much history I suppose.
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I still can't see how if they are both Christian they managed to not "marry only in the Lord" seing as they both worship the Lord Jesus Christ. Isn't that still marrying into the Lord?
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Not necessarily. Many people today claim to follow Christ (we don't worship him, he is the mediator between God and man), but then they won't do certain things that Christ commanded his followers to do (i.e. go out preaching to others about God's Kingdom), or they engage in activities and things that go against the Scriptures. If they married truly "in the Lord", then something like this wouldn't be a problem. They'd be of the same scriptural understanding as to what is required of Christians and what they are to refrain from, and so on and so on. It wouldn't be a question of "well he views it this way and I view it another".
I know some (maybe even all) of this has been covered.
1. Do you both worship the same Jesus as Lord? You're both Christians.
2. Baptism, in my humble opinion and I believe scripture concurs, means nothing if it isn't a conscious, voluntary choice. Nevertheless, if you both want to baptize the child it couldn't hurt. Or pick one, it doesn't really matter in this case in my opinion. Just give the kid a good family, raise her to know Jesus and encourage her to make her own decision regarding her faith. God wants people to WANT to know Him.
3. It really would be better for you to agree on one faith, but not impossible to deal with.
4. Bless the house twice then go have some ice cream.
Well I would like to thank everyone that posted in my thread. I now have a bit of understanding towards religion. It's crazy all of your posts really got to me! I would have never think that religion can be so complicated. IM SERIOUS!! Its pretty crazy from my point of view. I have never actually learned my own religion or anyone elses..i dont know....im confused...suprised...and OVERWHELMED on what you all posted.
I think I know what to do NOW!! Thank you so much guys. You all actually knocked some sence into me....i dont know....IT'S A VERY WEIRD FEELING!!
My wife and I both started out Roman Catholic, got married in a church then we had our first child. Her mom, who is a bit of a bible thumper, made the christening experience so much a pain in the arse that we never bothered to christen our second. We finally got her to understand that we are the parents and we make the decisions for our kids. We don't even bother going to church anymore. My wife is a family lawyer and she sees enough 'good christians' in a day want to have so much revenge and so full of nastiness that we both agreed that our criteria for friends is "being a good person" and not being a christian although they are not mutually exclusive of course. My $0.02 worth.
Incidentally, there is no Biblical provision for baptizing infants. If you'll notice, everyone that was baptized, according to the Bible, was of a proper age in which they could decide for themselves that they wanted to be dedicated to God. An infant does not have that capacity to make that decision for themselves based on knowledge.
Not only is baptizing an infant not correct, but the method in which it's done is also incorrect. For someone to be baptized, they must be fully immersed in the water, not just have some water sprinkled on their heads. Jesus was fully immersed in the Jordan, and when Philip baptized the Ethiopian eunuch, he was fully immersed under the water as well. Again, nowhere does the Bible say baptism is to be done by any other means.
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