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hi- im 22 my boyfriend is 20 we have been together for almost 2 years and been living together for almost a year......we both had our problems when we got together (were young) but now he has done a 180 and very religious im not knocking this at all i think its great but i have changed just not religiously i want to but always find some reason not to study with him or to learn....i just recently found out i was pregnant im now 14 weeks and now he is wanting to jump in to a marriage which i feel is the right thing to do but im scared of divorce....but now that im pregnant he decieds to sleep on the couch and that its all a sin to live together sleep together and for me to be pregnant and unwed....i take this hard because i am pregnant and emotioal i know what the right thing it and what to do and i love him with all my heart but i just feeling like we would only be getting married because of the baby...what do i do any help please???
To my way of thinking the correct thing to decide on is whether or not you want to be married to you BF, not let's do the right thing and get married because you are pregnant.
It is my personal hope that you will choose marriage, but I'd like to see that decision be a choice rather than a pressure point.
Take some time and look at your history together. Were you two heading toward the altar any way? If so continue the trip and get married.
As to your bf and the couch, he is better off there. Believe it or not I understand his thinking. Being Catholic, I know that the Catholic Church considers playing house to be sinful. The philosophy of his religious tenant's may be the same.
well first it is a matter that if you don't want to study religion with him, there is no reason you have to. So just don't.
As for the the "sleeping together" well at this point it is sorta like closing a barn door after the cows are already out.
But what happens to many new and young christians they get too concerned with the law of God's word and do often forget about the forgivenss that makes them the Christian to start with.
In fact, at the time you had sex and starting living together, you became "one flesh" by the bibical law. And marriage 2000 years ago did not invovle getting a license from the government, the groom merely made an agreement with the brides family and would go and get the bride after a waiting period.
But worried about divorce ?? what is divoce beyond leaving each other, so are you saying you are not devoted to him, ? are you planning on leaving ? Marriage is important to him, ( as it really should be, and should be to any couple before they move in together) And what is it to you, a peice of paper I will assume that only means it is harder to leave latter when you want to.
But with a child there is already court issues, child cusoty orders, child support and so on,
So my opinoiin, get married, at the courthouse, a private service with a pastor, does not have to be costly. In the Atlanta area, I do them free at the park or any where a person wants.
You need to decide do you want to marry him or do you want to leave him and be an unwed mother? You say you are afraid of divorce but I think you have just as good or a better chance at him being faithful and not divorcing you than if you leave and end up marrying somebody else.
You say you aren't into his religion but have you really given it a chance?
We do have some religion boards here if you want to ask anything about his beliefs or religion in general. Maybe it will help you with thinking about studying with him.
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