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    islam787 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 25, 2009, 05:07 PM
    Choosing Between Two Guys
    All right, so I've been secretly dating a guy (person A), for a couple of months now and he is a really great, caring, and an honest person. But he has a friend (person B), whom I have been interested in, on and off, before I started dating A. I know that B was already interested in me, and when he heard that A was interested in me, he stopped calling and messaging me. I'm assuming this is because he didn't want to get in between me and his friend.
    The problem is, that A and I are secretly in a relationship and only 2 people know about it accurately. Everyone else is pretty much assuming that we have something going on (including person B).
    Between the past couple of months, my feelings for B slowly vanished, yet yesterday, when B asked me if there was something going with me and A, I said no, making it clear that I am still available. Then he asked if I would spend time with him the next day.
    I spent time with B today, and I realized I still have feelings for him and if I were to choose one person over the other, it would make me regret and/or wonder what could have happened. Person B is also a wonderful person and I love to spend time with him.

    How do I solve this problem if I still have feelings for both guys?
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    Aug 25, 2009, 05:13 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by islam787 View Post
    How do I solve this problem if I still have feelings for both guys?
    Quit being selfish and using both of them, letting both go so they can find someone who trully appreciates them for them without all the added drama.
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    Aug 25, 2009, 05:15 PM

    You shouldn't be with either of them because you can't make up your mind.

    Leave them alone and be by yourself for a while, at least until you can find ONE person you want to be with
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    Aug 25, 2009, 07:29 PM

    OP,

    Here is the deal, I take person A, you take person B. :D
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    Aug 25, 2009, 09:59 PM
    I don't get it... why are you secretly in a relationship with A and if your feelings for B had vanished then why did you spend the day with him?

    I'd suggest you're not ready to make a commitment to either of them - why don't you just see them as friends?

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