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from what i've heard, you won't go to heaven if you have sex before marriage. my friend and her boyfriend are really close, and she has told me she might have sex with him. they are sixteen, and i'm not sure what to tell her. she also asked me this: "if i have sex with him, will i go to hell?"
so i guess my question is, will she go to hell, and how do i stop her?!
Rather than worrying about hell, if I were your friend and her bf, I would worry about life on earth. Sex produces babies. Your friend is very young and very unprepared to be a mother, just like her bf is not at all ready to support a family. Both need more schooling and maturity and just having fun and freedom before thoughts of babies dominate their lives. And another thought is that, once they give away their virginity, it's gone. Poof! It's unlikely they will marry each other someday. Why not save that precious gift for that special person?
While I am not saying it is okay with God to have sex before marriage I don't see it as a simple you messed up by *sinning* so you are going to hell. God knows we are human and he knows are short comings and our faults. I believe it is more a matter of your heart and desire to please God and work toward being right with him. Basically it is not a black and white cut and dry thing. We are not suppose to just give into sin and then repent like it is nothing but we need to strive toward doing right. It is best she tries to find the inner strength to not but God isn't waiting to strike a person into hell for what they do either.
I don't think that it's a good idea for her to have sex, but there's nothing you can say or do to stop her if she has her mind made up. It says in the bible no sex before marriage, but you can repent of your sins. Not saying that it is okay because sin is never okay, but there's only one true judge. Sex is soomething big, not just something to jump into. There could be alot of consequences other than hell, diseases or pregnancy.
ok thanks so much. cuz i know that she told me they were going to use condoms. i think i will tell her that God won't send you to hell, but you should save it for that special one when you get married.
Sex was intended to be a beautiful joining of two, in confirmed love for one another. The love can be blessed with a gift of love from God, a baby.
As we grow up accountability for your actions are important for it is a balance to what leads you in doing right from wrong. As a christian we believe God teaches us to remain pure hearted and love one another. Casual sex can always hurt someone. So your friend should first answer whether she wants to hurt God? hurt herself? or hurt someone else?
In all cases, I would hope her accountability brings the answer to NO... Thus she has her answer to casual sex..
As I have said in previous posts, sex before marriage takes away the specialness of it. My example: consider graduation. We anticipate graduation for many years before it actually arrives. We can't hurry it along, but imagine if people could just graduate from school when they couldn't contain their excitement anymore and couldn't wait any longer, that would take away from the presitigiousness and honor of the graduation ceremony. It wouldn't be special anymore. Sex is a beautiful and wonderful thing to be shared only with ones spouse. That's what makes it special because it is saved for that one special person in your life.
That being said, do I think the sin of sex before marriage will mark you for hell. Yes and No. Yes, if you have not accepted Jesus as your Savior. No, if you have accepted Jesus as your Savior. (Mind you, your salvation is not an excuse to sin) Your afterlife destination (heaven or hell) is not determined so much as what you do, as what you don't do. Sin is sin, its not ranked by scores of 1-10; 10 being the worst. If you've lied once you have sinned and have earned hell, BUT the great thing is, all you have to do is belive and accept what Jesus did for you on the cross and that sin no longer bounds you to hell. In short, no your friend will not go to hell for having sex before she's married, she will go to hell if she has not accepted Jesus as her Savior (if she is not born again), should she have sex before marriage, no, she shouldn't. Its a sacred thing to be shared with her future husband. She'll be missing out on a beautiful moment she could share with her true love if she gives her most precious gift away to the wrong person.
the bible clearly states it more than once that all fornicators will go to hell. the answer therefore is simple, if she dies with that sin she is going straight to hell.
i am not a virgin and i am not married. i had sex when i was about your age and truth be told i have reretted it ever since. it is difficult to stop once you satrt and it has plenty of disadvantages. you could get stds, aids or get pregnant. since your friend is not ready to have a child she will promptly abort once she gets pregnant. she will mess up her life and rue the day she had sex.
condoms are 97% reliable but there is a 3% chance it doesnt work.
her spiritual life will crumble and she will give assess to demons to confuse her and harden her heart.
when i had sex i became hardened and didnt know my right from wrong. i felt alone and confused but God rescued me and didnt let me die in my sin.
tell her that God loves her and if the guy she is going out with really loves her he wont even consider having sex with her. she is special in God's eyes and she deserves nothing short of true love. a man who loves you wont want to hurt u and thats what he's going to do to her if he sleeps with her.
u cant force her not to but just give her your sound advice! at the end of the day its up to her.
God doenst mess with our free will only the devil does. sex is wonderful but only when done at the right time. please remember. if u want to learn from my story then let me know
lilthechic disagrees: dont negotiate with sin. yes God understands but there is a limited amount of grace
I wasn't saying otherwise, BUT things DO happen and SHE has no control over her friend.
I was saying it is not a direct ticket to hell, BUT it is not something to take lightly either.
I did say '' I am not saying it is okay with God''
i'll keep this short and sweet. Your friend might go to hell yes. but god is forgiving. but tell her it will be soo much more special if she is married because its more sacred that way. even if she has to wait years it will probably be worth it. im 16 as well and i know i would never partake in that behavior. she needs to worry about stds, babies, and just her overall emotional stress she could gain. if this boyfriend of hers is making her or suggesting sex then he needs to be dumped she is only 16 for god sake. tell her NO.
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