from what i've heard, you won't go to heaven if you have sex before marriage. my friend and her boyfriend are really close, and she has told me she might have sex with him. they are sixteen, and i'm not sure what to tell her. she also asked me this: "if i have sex with him, will i go to hell?"

so i guess my question is, will she go to hell, and how do i stop her?!

Patriarch

Unfortunately all sinners go to hell. Actually everyone who dies go to hell. Now whether a person stays dead eternally depends on how one has lived life before death. Sex is only for an adult man and woman who are married to each other.
Life is sacred to God. Sex is sacred also. Life and sex are linked together because sex comes from life and life comes by sex. True sexual intimacy comes from mutual love and affection between married partners and eternally committed to each other only. One is not physically, emotionally, mentally, or financially ready for sex until some time during aduthood.
I do agree that it can be a challenge to maintain one's sacred virginity when we live in a world that is crazed about sex. We see it everywhere on tv. We hear about it all the time from friends and possibly family. You might even talk or hint or at least think about it daily. It is no wonder it is difficult to remain chaste.
The key to remaining chaste is to control ones thoughts and thinking about sex so often. Speaking about it also fuels the fire. Listening to others who talk about it does not help. Definitely have a boy or girl friend does very well lead to sex.

Put your mind on something more worthwhile and beneficial for ones age and for your future benefit. I hope this is somethings you can share with your friend.

tadita83

Patriarch Wrote: Unfortunately all sinners go to hell. Actually everyone who dies go to hell. Now whether a person stays dead eternally depends on how one has lived life before death.


Where in the world did you read that??????

kminni01

Well, she's only sixteen so she should try and grow up so fast by having sex with her boyfriend. She's way too young for that and she should risk getting pregnant. I believe that couples shouldn't have sex before marriage, but I don't believe that they will go to hell if they do. From my beliefs, God doesn't send people to hell when they have sinned against him. God is forgiving and if something happens then it happens, but I would not put hell in the picture because of that.

Fr_Chuck

If you go to Heaven depends on if you have accepted Christ as your Savior, we are all sinners, the difference is some are saved sinners and others are not. As saved people, we try not to sin, but we all fail at time.

I would worry at this point of STD, pregnancy and other first hand issues. Thier relationship with God will be thier own personal issue

Kati-Katt

That is a good question. In the bible if you read it it says that Jesus would always forgive us no matter what, just as long as you really mean your apology when you say it you'll be fine. You will not go to hell, allthough God does frown upon that and wishes you would listen to him.

cogs

it's not worth the heartache at this time in their life. they don't have the coping tools if something goes wrong. please tell them to wait. i don't think their love of god will stop them, because we live in a secular, liberal society that pushes sex at every angle. the fact that they're thinking of it is a symptom of the depravity of our society. dare them to be different. our focus in a christian walk should always be purity first, internally and externally. i'll pray for their purity, cause i think they need our prayers.

unknown624

yeahh. i told her that she should wait until she knows her boyfriend is really the right one, and she loves him so much that they could get married.

however, she interjected me when i was talking to her. she said that her boyfriend had talked to his parents about sex, and they agreed with him that sex is for people that truly love each other. what do i say to that??

cogs

if that's all he took away from his discussion about sex with his parents, i think his parents would disagree that this statement would be a go-ahead to have sex. to truly love someone is to put their best interests first, not our own. they barely got a driver's license. they are very young, and sex is a responsibility to another person. let them ask their parents if they should have sex. the parents are older, more experienced, and can make wiser decisions regarding their children, who are not yet adult.

Patriarch

Where in the world did you read that??????[/quote]


Ecclesiastes 3:19, 20 "which befalleth...men befalleth beasts:...as the one dieth, so dieth
the other" "All go unto one place"
Ecclesiastes 9:10 ""in the grave, wither thou goest"

Wondergirl

How on earth did you get such an interpretation from those verses? That's not what that means at all!