hey guys,

well this goes back a few moths ago. my husband and i got married little over a year ago. and at our 6month mark his mother came down to see us. well to make a long story short, she is a big christian, and im not. well i guess the way that the house was (it was alittle on the messy side) she called me a bad wife and said that in the bible that i am a wife that means that i need to cook, clean and wait on my husband hand and foot.
well i have no problum cooking and cleaning seance i have no job. but before she came down i did. a fulltime job i workd 35-40 hours a weeek. so it was little hard to do all that. plus i worked the graveyard shift. my husband is in the navy so he works 40-50 hours a week. but the thing is that he bearly helped out. i thought that being married its a team thing, i thought that we had to work together to make it work. but from what his mother yelled at me it is MY job to work, keep the house clean, and have dinner ready for my husband when he got home. im sorry, but i think that is a little much to ask from one person.

well last night my husband and i got into alittle thing again, and the bable came up again. well now he wants me to read it...... well i have never even opened a bible. to make him happy i opened it and read the 2nd page and it told me that im going to hell.... lol like i didnt know that one already. but because im not a beliver and i have sined (like he hasent) im going to be put into the lake of fire.

anyways, i read like the firist 3 1/2 chapters and now my brain hurts. i dont know where all these other wemen came from. i mean from what i read eve had 3 sons, one died. but the others had wives, and there onw kids..... so where did these other wemen come from??????

i dont know if i should keep reading or just stop.

see this is my husbands idea. he grow up around the bible. the only time that i have entered a church is to bapties my 2 cusens, and my aunt.

i grew up thinking that we came from munkeys. the whole evaluation thing.... i mean im 21my whole life that is the only thing that i knew, and he knew this when we got married. so this is not a new thing for him, he said that was ok with him. he didnt mind, but all of a suden he does...... what is up with that.

i love him to death, and i guess all i want to know is that should i keep reading or not.
i just dont feel comfrtable reading it. what should i do.
am i in the worng????

cheeseandtofu

wow. this sounds like a nasty problem.
i found it interesting that you said you know you're going to hell. i want to encourage you to keep reading the Bible and you'll find more things than you ever thought could fir between those two covers. i would suggest starting with matthew, mark, luke, or john, though. they're easier to understand than the old testament and are great to start off with.

the advice i have about your mother in law has already been given: try not to argue. arguing only makes things worse. i would also suggest reading chapter 31 of the book of proverbs where a woman describes a good wife. keep in mind the virtues she describes, not so much the chores and work. this was written a long time ago when a hard-working woman did a lot around the house. today, a hard working woman has the option of being hard working at home or in a job.

Handyman2007

Tell him to stick the Bible where the Sun don't shine and be done with it. If he thinks that reading a fairy tale will make you a better person, he and his mother need to get on with THEIR lives and you get on with yours, the way you feel comfortable. MNO one is better than anyone else. Men are not here to serve women and women are not here to serve men. We ARE all equal. I was married for a long time and I helped with everything in the home. And helped raise the children. And cared for my wife when she was ill. You need to find someone that will be your PARTNER not your ruler.

crazyhousewife

well thank you all for your help. nothing really has been going on at the house, i have been having a little bit to drink here and there before i go to be, and i have been derpressed so the house is alittle bad. i just dont feel like doing . i wish that i could just snap out of it and things can be like it was the first few months of our marrage. man when we were dating he was the best man there was. opened doors for me, took me out to dinner, and the sex.......... omg.. sorry. then when we got ingaged it was the same, he was wounderful, and the first 4 months of our marrage was just as wounderful. but till that woman came down.
i just have been crying the past few days. like that un controlable crying.
i have been reading the vs's that you all have been telling me to read and they have been helping. i try to make cleaning a game, i play music (i have done that is the past to.) that seems to help. i do alittle be at a time so im not over whelmed. but i love this man ans i dont want to leave him, but it just feels like the only thing to do sometimes.
HOW DO I MAKE THIS WORK. I LOVE HIM SOO MUCH ITS HURTS!!!!