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im just wondering. i know sumone who might have pre marital sex and im worried that he will. he always told me he wouldnt go that far in his relationship, that he was gonna wait till he got married but now he isnt sure wat hes gonna do until the moment comes wen hes in the situation. hes been christian all his life and yet he still isnt sure of wat hes going to do. im not sure wat i should tell him. i know that fornicators will have no part in heaven but i dont wanna say it like that to him. even tho i should. any ideas on wat advice i could give him?
Everything I've done in my life has led me to where I am now, I'm supposed to be sorry for that?
Yes I had premarital sex, heck it wasn't even with the man I eventually married and am still married to today. Would I go back and change it if I could, well, I've given that question allot of thought throughout the years, and the answer is no. If I changed even one little thing I might not have met my husband, and all the things I did and all the decisions I made are worth it because he is in my life. I guess that means I'm not going to heaven, because I'm not sorry that I did it. I hope that the God I believe in is more understanding than that.
God does not ask we wish that it was changed, since it can not be, he merley wants us to know that it was not the christian life style and that we should try and follow his will.
That's just it though, do we all really 100% follow his will, I don't think so. I try my hardest to do the right things in my life, but I make mistakes, like every one does. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. The OP shouldn't be looking down on his friend because of a decision he might make in his life, I'm sure sure that the OP has sinned too, who is he to judge?
im just wondering. i know sumone who might have pre marital sex and im worried that he will. he always told me he wouldnt go that far in his relationship, that he was gonna wait till he got married but now he isnt sure wat hes gonna do until the moment comes wen hes in the situation. hes been christian all his life and yet he still isnt sure of wat hes going to do. im not sure wat i should tell him. i know that fornicators will have no part in heaven but i dont wanna say it like that to him. even tho i should. any ideas on wat advice i could give him?
It seems to me, you answered your own question:
i know that fornicators will have no part in heaven but i dont wanna say it like that to him. even tho i should. ....
Remember:
Ezechiel 33:8 When I say to the wicked: O wicked man, thou shalt surely die: if thou dost not speak to warn the wicked man from his way: that wicked man shall die in his iniquity, but I will require his blood at thy hand. 9 But if thou tell the wicked man, that he may be converted from his ways, and he be not converted from his way: he shall die in his iniquity: but thou hast delivered thy soul.
And also:
James 5 20 He must know that he who causeth a sinner to be converted from the error of his way, shall save his soul from death, and shall cover a multitude of sins.
i think its best to re-phrase this. my"friend" is actually me. "me" in this story would be my conscious. wen me and my baby get time alone, we get to kissing and touching eacother and then im afraid were gonna have sex and not even care at that moment cuz we are IN the moment. i already know that it would happen very quickly. we almost got down to it but we were outside in a park, sooo yeah. To me, having sex before i get married is a big deal, i know its wrong and that it would be a terrible thing to do. The thing is that since i know its wrong, i dont want to end up doing it anyways. i dont even know why im asking for help. i already talked to my girl about it and we said we were gonna wait till we got married, but i know out of nowhere it can happen. blehh
If you read the information at the above link, you'll discover that the idea of marriage has changed over the years, and may be different for every culture. The idea of what constituted a marriage during the times of Paul are certainly different than they are many years later. It basically depends on how you choose to interpret based on your understanding and religious beliefs. You may choose to make an honest heart felt commitment to your partner, and they may be good enough for you to feel that you have satisfied the requirements of what was originally intended before the church and social political groups made doctrine and laws regulating what constituted marriage. It could be interpreted that as long as there is a commitment between two people, then there is a relationship that could constitute a marriage contract and make sexual relations between the two of them something totally different than sex between two people merely for the pleasure of having sex or making money when there is no other commitment or feelings between the individuals. When (or if) the feelings of commitment between the two individuals no longer exists, then the "marriage" or commitment no longer binds them and they may end their relationship without having sin stain their souls for others to judge.