we got married at her church and now she is suggesting for a baby girl to be baptised at her church but, i kinda want her to have her christining at my church?

this religion thing between us didnt come to my mind at all when i married her. i truly love her but need some advice.

I honeslty dont go to church as much as she does (i stay at home on sundays, while she takes our baby to her church)

I really need some advice on what to do and maybe someone can clear my head on what the difference is..I know it sounds stupid!

ANY opinions regarding this matter will help!!

icecream

I have another question:

We bought a house over the summer and she wants to house bless it twice. Have her priest and my priest come and bless the house (not at the same day)

Any comments on that?

J_9

To answer question 1: If she is more religious and takes baby to church, have it baptised in her church. There shouldn't be a problem as long as the baby is baptised. If you are not particularly religious and don't attend church as regularly as she does, this should not really be a problem.

Also, Catholics ARE Christians too.

#2 So, what, have the house blessed twice. No biggy.

RickJ

1. You are both Christian.
2. Since you are not as active as her, I'd suggest go and be active at her Church.

In my opinion you owe it to the child to be as one on the faith issue. Not that it would be "bad" if not, but certainly better.

All of the above is just my opinion.

icecream

Ya I kind of figured that! I was just being real stubborn like always!! I really needed to hear that other than from our friends. Just cause sometiimes i think they take her sides more than mine...i dont know.

Thanks J_9 she will be real happy to hear my answer

icecream

Your right. I dont go to my church as much as i would like but, maybe going to her church as a family would make us a little closer than we already are

Something I should really think about!! Damn, WHY AM I SO STUBBORN WHEN IT COMES TO THIS!!!! kinda pisses me off but, i can't help what i feel i guess....

Thanks you 2

templelane

Some people in these situations wait until the child is old enough to make their own decisions about which faith or denomination they wish to be.

icecream

I have another question:

should i concider myself as christian? why am i labelled as catholic when the posts stated above mentioned that they are the same???

Can someone school me on what the deal is please! Maybe if i can get more understanding on the topic, i can be more understanding to my wife as well.

beatlejuice

I think like everyone says, if she is more active then you should go to her church. baby dedication to the lord more biblical than Christianing, because the child is not old enough to make the choice of babtism herself a baby dedication can be done

templelane

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should i concider myself as christian? why am i labelled as catholic when the posts stated above mentioned that they are the same???
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Me and my Catholic flatmate just discussed this.
Point one - do you worship Christ? Then you are a Christian. Christian - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Point two - why do non Roman Catholics (I'm looking at the protestants here) never say their denomination but just say they are Christian in certain countries such as Northern Ireland? My personal theory was that it was because many of these breakaway denominations believe themselves to be worshiping 'the one true version of Christianity' and if you believe yourself to be doing this then why would you say you were anything but just Christian?

I just thought of another point- are you the Catholic?
You should note that not raising your child catholic could get you excommunicated- as happened to by grandmother for the terrible crime of raising protestant sons. Things might be a bit more relaxed now, but worth a look into.