This might be corny; but I really would like some feedback from some fellow Christians. Why does God seem to deny us true love sometimes? Does he take away or deny being with that one person who really makes you happy above all others if you are not walking correctly with him; even if you have prayed almost absessively for you two to be together? When I say walking correctly I mean attending Church regularly, no premarital sex, praying regularly, etc...


I guess I'm just so stumped and wondering why God seems to have outright denied me this one man in my life who I love so deeply. But the thing is he is still in my life ; about 7 years now. We dated, did have a sexual relationship, stopped, still are friends as we talk to each other frequently, hang out from time to time, know everything about each other, etc... Yet, he has never wanted to be in a relationship.

Now I was a little fast back in the day; during about the first 2-4 years before I really decided to start living in a more Christian manner. But even during those times I prayed, on my knees daily that God would bring us together & that I could marry him. The funny thing is he has been in my life for this long, and we haven't even fizzled out as most people do & I wouldn't want that anyway. He's a good friend to me & such a great guy.


I guess I just don't understand why God hasn't allowed him to feel...enough.....for him to want a relationship with me. It probably wouldn't be such a big deal to me if I hadn't prayed so hard for him, and for so long....

And a part of me wonders if it would make a difference if I were to strengthen my Christian walk, even now, would it make a difference with how he feels; or how God would allow him to feel...

Sorry if this was lengthy, but anyone's opinions on this situation would be great.. Thanks!

spitvenom

I was raised a Christian I don't practice anymore but I do not think it is God's fault. God gave us free will to make our own decisions. You even said "Yet, he has never wanted to be in a relationship." To me that is this man's free will God will not force him to be in a relationship with you no matter how much you pray because it is this man's free will. Just my opinion.

this8384

After reading through your post a few times, I personally think you're looking at this the wrong way. What you're basically saying is that you're not happy because God hasn't made this guy fall head over heels for you....that isn't how God works.

You prayed for a man; this guy came along but isn't fully interested. You want a reason; maybe he's just not the guy for you.

God doesn't always give us what we want, and most of the time it's for the better.

nikosmom

God doesn't always give us what we want, but He will give you what you need. He knows best. He knows what you need in a mate. And perhaps this guy is not the one.

I also believe this: God desires that He be #1 in our lives. He is the Alpha and Omega. That being said, He's not going to put someone in your life if it would cause your focus to shift. God knows your thoughts and perhaps He knows that this relationship would direct your attention from Him.

The Word says that you shall not be unequally yoked. Maybe, there's your answer.

Continue on your walk and trust in His best for you. Why wouldn't He give you his best?

revdrgade

In agreement with those who have answered ahead of me, here are some messages from God:

Jas 1:16-17

16 Don't be deceived, my dear brothers. 17 EVERY GOOD and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.
NIV

Isa 49:23
Then you will know that I am the Lord;
those who hope in me will not be disappointed
NIV

To be able to receive the good of these promises, you do need to trust Him. That may mean asking for God to close the door of you life on this man......and asking God to lead you to what He has in mind for you.
Granted, this is by no means an easy task for one who has their heart set on their own plans.

spitvenom

Hey This,
Yes we all have free will. I was taught in Catholic school that free will was a gift from God. So if we have this gift from God we can't ask God to control a persons free will just to suite what we want. If God did that then what is the point of giving us free will?

this8384

Just some clarification: I agree wholeheartedly that we have a free-will...in re-reading my greenie to you, it seemed like I might have been confused on that topic

spitvenom

Yeah I was kind of confused by that. But I am confused most of the time.

homesell

First, Love never forces someone to do something.
Second, you deserve a man that loves you and is willing to commit to you.
Third, because we pray for something doesn't mean it's what is best for us, we only think it is.
Fourth, by being obsessed with this guy, you've prevented yourself the opportunities of a relationship with a man that will love you.
Fifth, vowing to strengthen your walk with God hoping you will get something in return for this is wrong.
Sixth, if you focused more on your walk with God, keeping your eyes on Jesus, you will be amazed at how little the things of this world matter to you.
Seventh, I said all I did out of love and concern, not condemnation. May you be filled with the grace and peace of His Spirit.

inthebox

Of course, your walking with God makes you a more loving [ 1 Corinthians 13 ] person, and that makes you more attractive to everyone.

Perhaps this is God's way of telling you that at this time He wants you alone, with no baggage? And when the time is right, it will happen.





G&P