Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help!
Ask    ||    Answer
 
Advanced  
 

Ask QuestionsprogressAnswer QuestionsprogressBuild ReputationprogressBecome an Expert
 
Free Answers in 3 Easy Steps

Register Now
3 Steps

At Ask Me Help Desk you can ask questions in any topic and have them answered for free by our experts. To ask questions or participate in answering them you must register for a free account. By registering you will be able to:
  • Get free answers from experts in any of our 300+ topics.
  • Accept money for answers that you provide.
  • Communicate privately with other members (PM).
  • See fewer ads.

Home > Society & Culture > Religion > Christianity   »   Christ's Character and People

 
Thread Tools Search this Thread Display Modes
Question
 
 
#1  
Old Nov 3, 2009, 08:46 AM
noble123
New Member
noble123 is offline
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Posts: 8
noble123 See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
Christ's Character and People

Hello Everybody

I would love to have an encouraging response from someone who is Born Again and been through similar character building situations.

I have this guy at work who is regularly saying something negative to me or about me.
He does seem of a stressed disposition (huffing and puffing, irritated) and one day the Lord did minister to me saying "don't worry", when he was saying something negative.

I know, the Lord instructed me with His command - so why am I asking about this?..

Just for encouragement. This fella just stopped himself from making another negative comment about me again today - by his own admission i.e." You looked... I'd better not say it"...He had something negative to say about when he saw me in my cycling gear in the morning?...

Obviously he is very rude and derogative towards me, he knows I am a Christian but doesnt confront me about that.

Any thoughts?

Thanks

Reply With Quote
 
     

Answers
 
 
Old Nov 3, 2009, 09:08 AM   #2  
Expert
JudyKayTee is offline
 
JudyKayTee's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: NY State
Posts: 18,195
JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
Do you think the fact that he doesn't like you is somehow connected to your Christian beliefs?

Is that the question? Your religion doesn't allow you to respond or respond with a negative comment?

How about the next time around you say something about hoping God blesses the person and then just moving on?

I don't understand in view of your judgment/answer which belittled the OP: http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/addicti...ml#post2045880
  Reply With Quote
 
     
 
 
Old Nov 3, 2009, 09:21 AM   #3  
New Member
noble123 is offline
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Posts: 8
noble123 See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
Are you reffering to a past post?

I don't know what you are reffering to. I have not 'belittled anyone'.

Although that is not reffering to this question and therefore inappropiate. You may elaborate if you care to and I will glady reply.
  Reply With Quote
 
     
 
 
Old Nov 3, 2009, 10:25 AM   #4  
Expert
JudyKayTee is offline
 
JudyKayTee's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: NY State
Posts: 18,195
JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.JudyKayTee See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
Quote:
Originally Posted by noble123 View Post
Are you reffering to a past post?

I don't know what you are reffering to. I have not 'belittled anyone'.

Although that is not reffering to this question and therefore inappropiate. You may elaborate if you care to and I will glady reply.

I posted the thread - I don't know how else to "reffer" to what you have said in the past.

It is not the least bit unusual to look at past history before answering (basically to see who is trolling and who is not) so I don't find my post "inappopiate."
  Reply With Quote
 
     
 
 
Old Nov 5, 2009, 08:52 PM   #5  
Junior Member
ChildOfGod_1 is offline
 
ChildOfGod_1's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Posts: 37
ChildOfGod_1 See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
Hi noble123,
Just as the Lord as ministered to you... DON'T WORRY

People may abuse you sometimes for no reason, and they might not like you for some reason. But that is no reason for you to get hurt. You know that you good and right in the eyes of God... Then why bother?... Don't live for man's approval....

Just ignore him, and next time he tries to talk to you, just try to stay calm and don't get his words in your head. No point hurting yourself over someone's negative attitude.

Romans 12: 20 -- Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.
  Reply With Quote
 
     
 
 
Old Nov 5, 2009, 09:56 PM   #6  
Jobs & Parenting Expert
Wondergirl is offline
 
Wondergirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Chicago - western suburbs
Posts: 8,012
Wondergirl See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.Wondergirl See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.Wondergirl See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.Wondergirl See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.Wondergirl See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.Wondergirl See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.Wondergirl See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.Wondergirl See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.Wondergirl See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
Heap coals of fire on his head. Wish him a hearty "Good morning!" and always have something pleasant to say to him. If he says anything negative, smile and walk away.

Comments on this post
JudyKayTee agrees: Absolutely - my cousin's wife is a born again Christian and she brushes off the comments with "God Bless You" and a smile and then she walks away.
  Reply With Quote
 
     
 
 
Old Nov 9, 2009, 04:26 PM   #7  
Ultra Member
arcura is offline
 
arcura's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Montana
Posts: 3,023
arcura See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.arcura See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
noble123,
Yes, the best way to treat this person is with kindness.
No need to carry on a conversation just say thank you, smile as if you know something secret and walk away.
Pray for the person who obviously needs help.
The nicer you are the more it will get into that person's head and perhaps befuddle him.
Try your best to like him.
The old saying is true, "It becomes hard to dislike someone who likes you" and the opposite of that is therefor also true.
The opportunity may come along for you to say, "Gee, I like you but I don't understand why you say the things you do."
Give it a try.
Peace and kindness,
Fred
  Reply With Quote
 
     
 
 
Old Nov 10, 2009, 04:29 AM   #8  
Full Member
adam7gur is offline
 
adam7gur's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Hania/Crete/Greece
Posts: 340
adam7gur See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
Pray for him like you pray for yourself.See what the Lord will tell you.He is in need and you can can provide what he needs by praying to the Lord.Change him, gain him,make him your mission in God.He is a soul that needs help and that is the way that he shows you his need.It is not him that opposes you but it is the spirit that rules his life.Pray for his freedom and his salvation.Rebuke the wicked spirit that controlls him in the name of Jesus and set him free.May God bless you!
  Reply With Quote
 
     
 
 
Old Nov 10, 2009, 02:37 PM   #9  
Ultra Member
arcura is offline
 
arcura's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: Montana
Posts: 3,023
arcura See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.arcura See this member's comment history on his/her Profile page.
Brother adam7gur,
That is also some very good advice.
Peace and kindness,
Fred
  Reply With Quote
 
     
 
 
Old Nov 10, 2009, 05:23 PM   #10  
Christianity Expert
Fr_Chuck is offline
 
Fr_Chuck's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: Georgia
Posts: 36,811
Fr_Chuck has disabled reputation
Darn and I was going to suggest you cast the demon out of him.

but seriously you just let him say what ever he wants, you talk nice to him, tell him Jesus loves him and let the way you live, and let your life be a witness
  Reply With Quote
 
     

Your Answer
Email me when someone replies to my answer
Join Login





Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

 
Similar Sponsors


Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page

Similar Threads
Christ's Two Natures
(16 replies)
Name of the Character
(5 replies)
Obama's Lack of Understanding of Jesus Christ's Important Role
(62 replies)
If I let people know who my molester is, is that Defamation of Character?
(16 replies)

Search this Thread

Advanced Search

Bookmarks

Sponsors



Copyright ©2003 - 2009, Ask Me Help Desk.
All times are GMT -8. The time now is 05:06 PM.