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well this goes back a few moths ago. my husband and i got married little over a year ago. and at our 6month mark his mother came down to see us. well to make a long story short, she is a big christian, and im not. well i guess the way that the house was (it was alittle on the messy side) she called me a bad wife and said that in the bible that i am a wife that means that i need to cook, clean and wait on my husband hand and foot.
well i have no problum cooking and cleaning seance i have no job. but before she came down i did. a fulltime job i workd 35-40 hours a weeek. so it was little hard to do all that. plus i worked the graveyard shift. my husband is in the navy so he works 40-50 hours a week. but the thing is that he bearly helped out. i thought that being married its a team thing, i thought that we had to work together to make it work. but from what his mother yelled at me it is MY job to work, keep the house clean, and have dinner ready for my husband when he got home. im sorry, but i think that is a little much to ask from one person.
well last night my husband and i got into alittle thing again, and the bable came up again. well now he wants me to read it...... well i have never even opened a bible. to make him happy i opened it and read the 2nd page and it told me that im going to hell.... lol like i didnt know that one already. but because im not a beliver and i have sined (like he hasent) im going to be put into the lake of fire.
anyways, i read like the firist 3 1/2 chapters and now my brain hurts. i dont know where all these other wemen came from. i mean from what i read eve had 3 sons, one died. but the others had wives, and there onw kids..... so where did these other wemen come from??????
i dont know if i should keep reading or just stop.
see this is my husbands idea. he grow up around the bible. the only time that i have entered a church is to bapties my 2 cusens, and my aunt.
i grew up thinking that we came from munkeys. the whole evaluation thing.... i mean im 21my whole life that is the only thing that i knew, and he knew this when we got married. so this is not a new thing for him, he said that was ok with him. he didnt mind, but all of a suden he does...... what is up with that.
i love him to death, and i guess all i want to know is that should i keep reading or not.
i just dont feel comfrtable reading it. what should i do.
am i in the worng????
lol...bless you. My mother in law used to send scriptures(versus) from the bible for me to read. I know your stuned...like who the he11 is she.
Girl get some tough skin because your in for a ride...when or if you have kids she will tell you what kind of a mom to be.
My advice to you is to not get into a debate or try to explain why you are the way you are.
You are you and that is all that matters and it must have been good enough for him because he married you.
You can't change into the person his mother or even he wants. Look at yourself, truly take a look and you decide if a change is needed.
This has little to do with christianity or reading the bible. Your husband seems to be of the belief that he does need to do anything around the house and that's not going to change no matter how much bible you read. If you are comfortable in that subservient role then ok, but if not then I would have a serious talk with him about his views. About the MIL - no one should be yelling at anyone for that. She obviously has issues. Please don;t become her.
well before she came donw it was ok with him, but now it seams like he is not ok with it. he is a big church going. out of the 2 1/2 years that i have known him he has never went to church.
and now he is trying to force me into reading something that i dont really belive....
Then don't read it and refuse to argue about. It takes 2 people to have an argument.
But the next time mil wants to yell at you in your house very calmly show her the door and tell her to have a nice day.
You're married....he can't just get rid of you to please mommy!!!
Remember, you sleep with him, make him happy in the bedroom. Just don't get caught up in his or his mother's controlling ways. Just say "Yeah" and change the subject. *Be unconcerned* about the stuff they criticize you over.
If you aren't working, you have to make a nice home. It doesn't take much time at all, and it is worth it.
A pastoral view is that you should continue to read the Bible as you may be surprised to find that your faith will begin to grow. As to all the rest, the same writer (Paul) who told wives to be in submission to their husbands also said that husbands should love their wives as their own bodies, and as Christ loved the Church, which He died for. Point out that if hubby loves you as he should, he will be the spiritual leader of the home, (be first in serving God) and will treat you wonderfully. Don't let in-laws spoil your marriage.
Should you read the bible, yes it is a great book, even if not a christian it is one of the most sold books and most of its principal ideas is what the US laws were based on.
It does not say though the new testement that a women is a slave to her husband, it does say a man is a slave to the lord, so I would assume he is also giving 10 percent of his pay to church, he is raising his kids christian holding bible classes for them and so on ??
It does say a husband and wife should love each other as they do the Lord, and that we all all equal. So you need to read it, if for no other reason than to find all the places where the mother in law is to butt out and the man is to leave his mother and father and cleave only to his wife.
These bible thumpers are the worst type of christian I hate ( well I guess I am not allowed to hate but get the idea) they pervert the word of God to force someone to do something that they are just to lazy to do, or to make people to give them thier way. Doing this is not christian, in fact Christ would take the injustice, he would wash the feet ( job of a slave or servant) of others.
Now if you were not working, ok, it is only fair to do a larger ( but not all) of the household items, But when you both are working, you make a list and divide the chores.
So yes they are lying to you about what the entire bible says, they are taking verses out of context and are hypocrites of the worst kind in my opinion.
i am not working at the moment. i am looking for a job. i do clean. kinda. i do the deshes everyday and wash the close everyother day. there is just the 2 of us so there is not that much cleaning. i have dinner ready when he gets home, i make his lunch for work, i iron his unaform before he goes to work, when he asks for something i getup and get it for him. i dont know what else to do. he goes to work, comes home and plays his playstation. we have not had sex in a month. he does not even look at me the same way that he did when we got married. its like he is a different person.
but what is going on between us goes a little deaper then just the bible, but i thought if i could get a little help on this prouble and we could just maybe agree on atleast one thing. i talk to him yesturday about what some of you said ( i posted the samething in the marriage part) and he sad that he was still upset that i GAVEUP reading it. and he would like for mw to give it another try. but after reading what you guys said i think that if he wants me to read it, i would want to go to the book stor and get a copy that i pickout, something that i cant read and understand.
is it me am i just blowing this out of context??? should i just give in and read it to make him happy??
lol...bless you. My mother in law used to send scriptures(versus) from the bible for me to read. I know your stuned...like who the he11 is she.
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