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I am 19 and i have a 4 month old baby girl my fiance is working as a chef and i despretly want to get into the work force, (i have never worked, except on my fathers farm and a racing hats designer) i dont know whether it is right to have my daughter in a child care so early what should i do?? HELP!!!!!
I had my son in child care at 5 months. It is fine, millions of mothers do it. I would suggest getting a breast pump, and trying to keep her on breast milk as long as possible...that is if you are breastfeeding...It is difficult, but your child will benefit from it, believe me, she will gain important social skills as she ages. Just remember that when youdo put your child in daycare, they get sick more often...you know colds and such.
4 months is very young to be left with a stranger. If it was a family member helping out that could be different. Maybe working part time would be a good solution. It will be tough to leave your child with anyone, and nothing in this world will keep you from worrying or wondering if you are doing the right thing. The decision must be yours and yours alone. I do believe quality rather than quantity of the time spent with your child is more important. And a happy, working mum is much better than a sad, stay at home mum.
Check out very carefully the person you decide to leave your child with. Make your own rules and have them follow them. Don't feel that you have to follow their rules.
I know a lot of moms are going to work. I don't believe it is the right choice for a mother to feel like everything else is more important than the life she brought into this world. I know that is a very BIG statement, and usually I am not so bold. I really believe we have kids to show them the right ways to live instead of pay someone for that special job. What are you going to do when you find out your baby took her first step, are you gonna say "oh that's ok, i will see it later?" And that is not even half of it. You better be as sure as anyone can be, that where ever that baby is, she is safe from EVERYTHING!!! I love my kids and I know that when they are little they depend on me for safety, they can't tell you that the babysitter picked me up by my arm , or any little thing that hurt their feelings and you can't figure out what is wrong with her. No way, I know that there are a lot of good career mothers, I am sorry if I offended anyone, I just believe that a mother is a mother, that should be her job. Believe me we don't have a huge house and I don't get to get my nails done. My kids are way more important to me than a nice pair of shoes. And you know what, When they are eighteen, I can't wait to land the full time job of my dreams! I honestly hope you can look at this open minded as I can't seem to look at it another way unless it is ABSOLUTELY necessary that the mom goes to work........
Why don't you get your degree at home via an online school while your little one grows up a bit? By the time you finish, your little one will be ready for pre-school and you will have acquired some marketable skills. I had to go back to work almost immediately after having my son and regret it. I took more time off with my daughter and think it was the right decision.
I just wanted to add that if anyone is offended by my answer I am sorry. I know that there are many different situations that of course the mom needs to work. I do know that. I am seeing here that this might not be the case though, so I am commenting on hers alone.
I am trying to understand this post.
If you "desperately want to get into the work force" why did you have a child so soon?
I guess until I can understand this, I just don't have a lot of advice.
I am 19 and i have a 4 month old baby girl my fiance is working as a chef and i despretly want to get into the work force, (i have never worked, except on my fathers farm and a racing hats designer) i dont know whether it is right to have my daughter in a child care so early what should i do?? HELP!!!!!
Answer is both, i have five children and 10 almost 11 grandchildren, when my children were little i always worked doing something from home, you have the advantage of having experience in what could be a very lucretive business, if you don't want to continue with that then you are artistic so you could branch out in any manner of fields, even design peoples homes for them, many affluent people do not have the time for this but would welcome someone such as yourself to give them your expertise, why can you not do it from home? you will have the best of both worlds and be able to watch your little ones firsts. Take care, love and peace anne x
all I can say is parents do what they must to support their families, but after working eight hours it is difficult to pick up your child go home and be a parent for sixteen hours and go back to work. Babies do not understand that mom and dad need some sleep to function at work. My babysitters all told me how good my baby was sleeping almost the whole time i was at work of course this meant that all evening and all night was play time.
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