My Son

Momintears · #1 Dec 2, 2006, 12:52 AM

Hi everybody
I have some problems and need to share with those people with full of kindness that can help me.

I am a single mom with 3 kids. I have a man next to me now that will be my future husband. He is a very good man to me and wonderful father-to- be to my kids.
My relationship with my Ex is not good. He never take care at all of my kids after we divorced(3 years). I am a very simple lady with a lot of love and care.

My elders son is 13 year old. He really get my love and care. Same goes to my man, He also try his best to give the best to my kids. They are happy and love him so very much. What I know from him that he hate his own father and do not want to stay with him. He always in tears when I mention that he have to stay with his father. He have a lot my Ex behavier that sometime make me mad.

Last week is a shock for me when he can't refuse going to his father house. He never call me until I called his mobile. He said that he want to come back at night but never turn up until now. I do not know what is happenning and I crying non stop everyday. I have a feeling that he want to have a freedom over there. He do not care about my feelings and never make attemp to call me and his brother.

I cannot understand him now. What should I do when he suddenly say that he want to stay with his father. His father is a lazy and not educated guy. He like to waste his time with watching TV and do nothing.

What should I do now.

Whywhywhy · Dec 3, 2006, 12:53 AM

Above all that is going on in all of your lives tell your son you LOVE him. I don't know how long ago he turned 13 but he is probably going through changes that teenagers go through.
No matter how bad you feel about your ex he is your sons father and he always will be. Maybe he feels he can talk to his dad (man to man) like.
You will only push him away if you keep getting upset with him.
Just remember to tell him you LOVE him and you are always there for him.
I went through this with both of my sons. It feels like they are trying to break your heart. It hurts but he is growing up.
God Bless



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