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    Jan 14, 2010, 11:31 AM
    What does it mean to dream husband has a child with another woman
    I caught my husband cheating and he ended that but after that I keep dreaming he had a child with that woman
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    Jan 14, 2010, 11:35 AM
    What does it mean to dream your husband has a child with another woman
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    Jan 14, 2010, 12:36 PM

    Unfortunately, it seems that you're still dealing with the pain from catching your husband cheating.

    Have you talked to him about it? Have you told him your feelings?

    A dream is just that, a dream. It is not reality.

    Your reality right now is that you need to talk to your husband. You're still hurt - I'm sure that must be very difficult. Talk to him. Be honest.

    Has he stopped the affair?
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    Jan 14, 2010, 01:08 PM
    Repetative dreams, with the same people, situation, and conclusion can become more and more paired with non-dream thinking, that makes it seem very real. I can see that you have had the dream many times, otherwise there would likely be gaps and confusion in what you have dreamed.

    It is natural to want to put meaning to a repetative dream, but you must be careful, because you project the insecurities onto your innocent husband.

    What you are dreaming is a fear of their relationship, because as Historian Chick said, you are insecure about something. It could be fidelity, getting pregnant, feeling insecure, unloved, overlooked, compared to another, etc. All sorts of reasons you would release these feelings into a scenereo that makes sense. Sort of fits the bill doesn't it.

    The baby part would be further indication of a relationship, that has turned into a family, which probably has much more significance. Raising a child leaves limited together time, maybe you fear a future major change in your relationship. You cannot predict that, but you can make sense of it, by putting him in that place, but not with you, because you are fearful.

    You catching him cheating breeches the most sensitive part of a trusting (or what once was, a trusting) relationship. I presume that who he cheated with is the woman in the dream. She had influence, and a connection to him, at least sexually, and it was a valid concern that she could have become pregnant.

    While you say you have gone past the affair, I wonder if you really have. There is something there that keeps you connected to 'them', and keeps the woman/affair alive. Most likely because you have not fully resolved yourself to it, and let it go.

    You really need to speak to him, and you need to trust your instinct. Nature may be warning you to tread carefully here. Lingering doubts have to be talked out, a thousand times if necessary. What you are not dealing with directly with him, you are manifesting in your dream.

    The more effort you put into re-establishing trust, the less you will feel the 'reality' of the dream affecting how you think.

    I can't see any other way to resolvethis except to deal with it honestly and upfront. To not deal with it is to leave lingering doubts, and thwart an otherwise good shot at making the relationship work well.

    Consider counselling as well. It may be, like many couples, easier to talk face to face with a therapist who can help and guide you to getting to the point of true forgiveness.
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    Jan 14, 2010, 06:14 PM

    Thank you maybe is that I still can't forgive him
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    Jan 14, 2010, 06:20 PM

    If you can't forgive and forget, why are you still in what is obviously a very painful relationship for you.

    If you don't/can't trust him you have to decide what to do with the rest of your life.

    Have you tried talking to a professional?
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    Jan 14, 2010, 06:50 PM
    I love him will like to forget we have been together for 17 years and I have a 3 daughter 2 are from previous marriage and he help me raise them
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    Jul 7, 2010, 12:55 PM
    I don't know I dream some chubby lady came to my door with a baby and said it was my husbands it was kind of disturbing and twice I've had a dream where I come home and my husband has some blonde lady sitting in or living room and the feeling in the dream is like he's moving her in what does it mean?
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    Jul 7, 2010, 02:02 PM

    It means you don't trust your husband. I don't think you have to be a psychic to figure this one out.
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    Apr 15, 2012, 12:46 PM
    Just woke up from one of those gut felt dreams...

    I've known my husband since we were kids. As adults we reconnected and got married. One year later a new baby.

    We have close friends who our families both grew up with as cousins, aunts etc. Its been 3 yrs since we last seen them all due to all their negative ways in life. However, I keep having these dreams of my husband either cheating on me with one of the girls and now today a surprise that one was 9months pregnant. Maybe I am still holding on to past pain of when he cheated 2 in a half yrs ago. But the pain from these dreams are so damn real. Nevertheless I've been the type of person that every time I have a dream my partner is cheating, I end up finding out some time later he either has or is about to...

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