Originally Posted by
robertsqueen
Baily gets up at 6:00
He then has developmental time/play time until 11:00
He then goes down for nap at 11:00
He wakes up about 12:30-1:00
He eats lunch
He gets to watch disney channel for an hour
Then its playtime/outiside time when its warm
Then its daddy time or mommy time-which ever parent was gone for the day
Then we have family time
then its bedtime routine-bath, read, sing, and tuck in kisses
He is in bed by 7:30 everynight
The thing that scares me is that he wakes up screaming.....I have tried everything I turned on his light before bed. did nightlight...I am out of idea
It's like he he scared, and I don't want to leave him in the room if he is scared, but what is he scared of? Could someone be hurting him?
Another thing that worries me is that this started after my brother came to visit. My brother raped me when I was younger, and my family refuses to accept it, My mom left him alone with bay and I got furious when I found out. It was only for about five-ten minutes but coud something have happened?
Hello friend,
It sounds like you are taking care of Bailey really well . (I like that a lot! )
The only thing I would change is his bedtime. Because he is waking up later it can simply be that you need to move the bedtime up an hour and that may help . Two hours would be even better.
Though I know you need your personal time too it's a simple fact that as children get older they begin to need a later bedtime.
As for your brother's visit ,I'm really sorry that the fear you feel is real enough that you know he could have molested your child. You've every right to be upset with your Mom.
Since your mother does not seem to understand or respect your fear it's your clue that you should not leave Bailey with her unless she agrees that will not happen again. Turn your fear and your anger into power.
If you feel your brother has too much influence over your mother then it's best just to not leave Bailey with her but do visit when you have time so she can still see him.
I'm going to give you my gut feeling here .
It would be possible for the visit from your brother to have allowed Bailey to experience your fear and in that he's left screaming in the night with fear he doesn't understand.
Believe it or not even pets react to a visit from someone that the owner isn't completely comfortable with.It's not unreal that Bailey is a very sensitive baby and feels your fear.
(Doing "Self talk" with yourself concerning your fears can help you become more calm,more sure of yourself. Things like "I'm in control now,I am in my home with my family,I am ok." can help.)
Night Terrors are real and even children who do NOT experience parental fear have them. It's a stage that some children go through.
I'm including a website for you to help you understand more. Nightmares are also real and there's a difference between them and Night Terrors.
Also,be sure you are not allowing any violent programing that might upset a young man's emotions to the point of dreaming about what he saw. (just an extra and very good precaution!)
Here's the website to help you know more:
Nightmares and Night Terrors in Children -- familydoctor.org
Sincerely,
SmartAlex
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