Troubled grown daughter

CaptainForest · Aug 2, 2006, 04:30 PM

First, without more information, it is very hard to advise.

However, maybe your daughter thinks you are racist and would rather you not be around her child?

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Originally Posted by Doublell

My daughter had a biracial daughter. It was a beyond a shock.

Why would this be beyond shock? So what that her child is biracial? If the child is healthy, is that not what is important?

As I said, it is hard to give you any specific advise without more details.

Doublell · Aug 3, 2006, 06:12 AM

The child is not the problem. My daughter is. Yesterday she was supposed to serve at the sherriff's farm and today and tommorrow. She cussed me out the day before. So I didn't go get the baby. I'm tired of the abuse. So now she will probably go to jail But it's all my fault. I didn't drive on a suspended license it's still my fault. She is a wonderful mother. This all happened before the baby was born. She is totally disrespectful to me and I can do anything for her unless her attitude changes. Opinions?

talaniman · Aug 3, 2006, 06:37 AM

Sometimes they have to suffer the consequences for their own actions. That includes desrepecting a parent. I don't know how old your daughter is, more info would be helpful.

Doublell · Aug 3, 2006, 06:58 AM

She is going on twenty three. Her baby is the love of my life, but I'm honestly at wit's end. She is probably going to jail for failing to complete her sentence. The only one that will suffer is the baby (6 months old). We are educated, law abiding citizens. My daughter works hard at her job, she is an excellent mother, she respects fellow citizens--it's me she dumps on. I now know how most grandmothers feel. The consequences will ly with the baby.

talaniman · Aug 3, 2006, 07:14 AM

You are concerned as well you should and I know how helpless you can feel, but back off and let the dust settle and catch your breath. Hard as we try we grandparents can't cure everything. Take yourself out of this picture for a while and just let your daughter handle her own business. You raised her so have faith she can deal with it. RELAX and wait and see what happens. Been there done it many times.

Doublell · Aug 3, 2006, 07:19 AM

Thank you. So glad I found this site. I am sometimes ashamed to tell my friends. My daughter embarrasses me by some of her choices. We live in relatively small community in Florida and everyone goes to her restaurant for socializing. Your advice seems to the popular concensus with my close friends who know us....thanks again

Shaunic · Aug 3, 2006, 07:20 AM

So What if your daughter had a biracial child, the important thing is that your grandchild is healthy and she is loved. I guess when you get past color and embrase your grandchild then your relationship you had with your daughter or want with her would be improved.

Doublell · Aug 3, 2006, 08:05 AM

I think you misread or I gave the wrong impression. As it was hard to overcome her pregnancy, the child is my world. My daughter refuses to grow up. S

Doublell · Aug 3, 2006, 08:14 AM

She is very angry. About what, I don't know. Everything that goes wrong is my fault. Her daughter is my concern, she is too hot headed to talk to. And she punishes me with baby. I thought motherhood would make her grow up but it didn't. Her lifestyle is at best questionable. She works hard, doesn't do drugs and is a wonderful mother, but she has some trouble with law over her driver license. She will most likely go to jail for a few days, what will she do with the baby then.

Troubled grown daughter

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