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Ok, my oldest son is 3 and lately when he doesnt get his way he says he hates me. He doesnt say it to his dad, uncle, aunt, grandma...just me. My husband and my brother put him in the corner when they hear him say it, but I dont do anything because honestly I dont know what to do.
I hope you all arent thinking "bad parent" because I honestly dont know where it is coming from. He is very smart and learns things on his own sometimes.
The other day he said "I want my own way" and me or my husband have never said anything remotely like that around him.
I didnt think i'd have to go through the "i hate you" phase until the teenage years.
Hee, hee, I can't tell you about the teen years yet, but I'm sure there will be I hate you's then too. My oldest is 9 going on 14, really, he's already getting the teen attitude and I have so much more to look forward to. He's got a good base though so I'm sure we'll get through it, we might not both come out alive though. (kidding)
That is a possibility he does watch TV with us sometimes. It just bugs me because he can be a little angel one minute, and turn evil at the snap of a finger.
I hope you all arent thinking "bad parent" because I honestly dont know where it is coming from. He is very smart and learns things on his own sometimes.
The other day he said "I want my own way" and me or my husband have never said anything remotely like that around him.
Don't beat yourself up. You know the saying "it takes a village to raise a child" well unfortunately, even if you don't have the village helping out, your child will still pick things up from the villagers. Kids are like sponges, they soak everything up, it's not always a reflection on you. Wait until he's older, then you'll see yourself in him, you'll either be shocked or will giggle yourself silly.
My five year old was playing with her dolls in her bedroom last week, I walked by and heard her say, to her dolly "Smarten up right now missy or you are going to your room", it might as well have been me in there.
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I hope you do not think I am saying that to you? There are so many different influences out there today. You just never know where they are going to pick it up. I remember my uncle was on the phone one time and my baby sister was just a baby. He swore on the phone next thing you know. My sister kept repeating the swear word. They pick up on every little thing and they are a sponge and soak everything in no matter where it is from.
It is amazing in away but a challenge to deal with it afterwards. I hope you understand I am not saying anything bad?
It sounds like you are a great parent, and you've gotten some great advice here. But you all are scaring me into waiting another five years to have a baby :P
And nauticalstar reminded me of a hilarious Youtube video when she said angel one minute and devil the next. Hope you all get a laugh out of this:
CM, that was hilarious, see what did I tell you, little sponges, where do you think he got that from?
CM, don't be scared about having kids, trust me it will change your life, but for the better. There are days when you want to rip your hair out or sell them to the gypsies, but there are more good days than bad. One day, when you have a child of your own and you've had a terrible day, one of the worst, a little hand will reach up and tug on your shirt, and a face that looks so much like your own will say "Mommy, do you need a hug?" that right there makes up for everything else, trust me.
Nautical Star- You sound like a wonderful parent. How do I know, you had a problem and you asked for help, if you weren't a good parent you would have just let it slide and hoped for the best. You have your sons best interest at heart, and that's the sign of a good parent. Chin up, you're doing great!
That video is one of my faves, along with the baby that farts a cloud of baby powder, the two babies sitting up and one laughing at the other's hiccups. All so cute.
I was kidding--I look forward to having children. I only want two. I am excited for the day that this can become reality, but the bf and I are gonna get married first, and that's also a while off.
And Natuticalstar sounds like a great mommy. As do you.
(kidding)
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