At Ask Me Help Desk you can ask questions in any topic and have them
answered for free by our experts. To ask questions or participate in
answering them you must register for a free account. By registering you
will be able to:
Get free answers from experts in any of our 300+
topics.
I've been divorced since 1994, both of us have remarried, I however have a 4 year old child. I have physical custody of my 14 year old. Both my ex and I get along great always have -- I've been liberal with visitation and rarely asked for additional support financially. I've lost my job and have an opportunity to move to another state. Does my 14 have the right to choose to stay with his father? I am willing to work out an fair visition, I am only moving 3 hrs away via plane. I went through a nasty custody battle 14 years ago and don't want another one. My ex and son have a great relationship and my ex is involved in his life, would this impact my ability to move for a new job? We live in NH
I do not want Stephen to leave New Hampshire. I oppose any move out of state, as it is not in his best interest to go. I am sympathetic to your situation but feel that he has a happy, stable and productive life here and any move would be devastaing to his emotional well being.
I do hope that you can find something locally.
Regards,
I do not want Stephen to leave New Hampshire. I oppose any move out of state, as it is not in his best interest to go. I am sympathetic to your situation but feel that he has a happy, stable and productive life here and any move would be devastaing to his emotional well being.
I do hope that you can find something locally.
Regards,
The letter does have a certain legal twang to it. I am sympathetic to your dilemna, however do feel this move would not only hurt your son but your 4 year old as well. They are so impressionable at that age and the separation may cause them both irreperable harm. Please do consider other alternatives. Your teenager does not need anymore drastic changes in his life right now.
I tried talking with my ex -- seems the result is what I expected he will fight me for custody and will not let me take my son. This means if I do move, for financial reasons only not because I want to, I will be disrupting my son and daugther's life. She is only 4 and will be with us, but won't have the relationship with her brother she deserves to have.
Put yourself in your son's shoes for a minute. Would you like it if you were torn away from your school, friends, and most important the father. Boys need their fathers more at this crucial age for guidance. Your little four year old will not be as emotionally stressed as he will be since at her age life is an adventure and there is always school vacation where her brother can come and visit. This would be quality time to share with him. If you pull him from this environment at this stage, he will resent this and there will be more emotional turmoil for the entire family including his little sister as his attitude will change and he will probably seclude himself, therefore no more quality time with his little sister, nor with you for that matter. Please consider what's best for him right now, and ask him what he wants to do. Don't let the financial aspect from the father cloud your sincere judgement as this will not give you the peace or satisfaction you will need to start off in a new job. If he does not want to go with you and you force him, you will probably wind up taking time off from your new job too many times to deal with problems at home and that will do nobody good. If he wants to stay with his father, you will only loose him physically for a while, but not emotionally - he will always love you. So, if you love him, let him go, to keep his love and respect for you forever. Wishing you all the best and hope things work out. Keep us posted.
Kids grow up fast, how they grow is up to us parents. Happy Holidays!
I've been divorced since 1994, both of us have remarried, I however have a 4 year old child. I have physical custody of my 14 year old. Both my ex and I get along great always have -- I've been liberal with visitation and rarely asked for additional support financially. I've lost my job and have an opportunity to move to another state. Does my 14 have the right to choose to stay with his father? I am willing to work out an fair visition, I am only moving 3 hrs away via plane. I went through a nasty custody battle 14 years ago and don't want another one. My ex and son have a great relationship and my ex is involved in his life, would this impact my ability to move for a new job? We live in NH
i say that your child is only 14 not 18 so his vote don't count, however, the three of you should probably sit down and figure out a way to make it work. If you can't then go to you lawyer.
Linear Mode
