Signing away my rights?

Don't be so quick to sign off this child quite yet! You may regret it! No, you will!

I had a male friend in the same situation about 6yrs ago. He was 19 and she was 18. They only dated about 6 months and yep, she got pregnant! He insisted she get an abortion, but she refused. He hated the thought of paying child support and insisted he would never pay it. He told her he would fight for custody so she would have to pay. He hated her for every month of her pregnancy for choosing to have this child, but everything changed the day that little baby boy was born. When he looked through the nursery glass at the tiny precious baby boy that looked just like him, he cried! He ran to the store and bought his boy diapers, clothes, and a swing. He begged the girl to forgive him and pleaded for her to allow him in her life with the child. She did! They have been together ever since and now have their 2nd child together.

I am not saying your situation is or will be the same, but you never know? God works in mysterious ways and I insure you, he does not want your ex to get an abortion!

Children are such a huge reward in someone's life, you are very blessed, and child support is such a small price to pay for such a HUGE payback!

She has chose to have this baby of yours, so PLEASE make the best of it!

You can't sign away rights unless she has someone to adopt the child or someone else to claim paternity, but think hard before you make your decision! Wait till you see your baby's face to make your choice, because once it is done......there is no going back!

Good Luck and God Loves You!

First she may not want an abortion on many other grounds also, and I am sickened at your total selfish nature to so quick kill a baby so you don't have to pay some money.

But first you can't do anything till the baby is born. After the baby is born you can sign away your rights, ( right to visit, right to custody) but you can not sign away your child support obigations, heck if it was as easy as just signing it away, would any man be in prison today for not paying ?

So you need to stop having hate for her ( remember it was your desire for unprotected sex that helped make the baby)

So if you dislike the women, first that means you need to pick better with the people you have sex with, but it also means you need to be resonsible for your acts. Helping to raise your child is one of them.

Yep. You're going to be forking out a heck of a lot of money over the next 18 years or more.

Let me see if I've got this straight....YOU chose to have unprotected casual sex with someone, YOU got her pregnant, and YOU don't want to pay child support, so YOUR solution is to kill YOUR unborn child and never speak to this woman again? YOU should have thought about the possible consequences of YOUR ACTIONS! My advice is, deal with it, and make the best out of what YOU'VE got, because it's not all about YOU anymore.

Wow! I really can't stand guys! My bet....she just really doesn't want an abortion, do you have any idea how hard that is on a pregnant woman? Her saying she is going to take you for everything you've got is more than like being said out of hurt and anger toward you. Me being left at 3 months pregnant..I completely understand HER pain! Guys think abortion is a form of birth control and that is just sick. Ever think she is already thinking about the beating little heart growing inside of her as I type this to you. GROW UP

You can sign away your involvement in this child's life, but you will still have to pay for it.

Next time you decide to sleep with someone maybe using a condom will stop another woman having the ability to 'take you for every dollar'.

It takes two to make a baby, stop blaming her and start supporting your child, and the mother of your child.

Listen, if the is just having the baby to spite this guy, she doesn't deserve to reproduce. My boyfriend has a child with he's ex who is currently a little over 3 months old, and she has let him see their baby ONE time, despite he's best efforts to get along with her. This girl has physically attacted us both while she was 7 months pregnant, and has gone so far as to key my car! She even broke into he's hosue before he and I got our own place and stole a car seat that he bought for the baby, this was also still while she was pregnant.

Now he and I have our own place and want to get married when we're both done with school (so in dec. Or Jan.) and she's saying that she's never going to let him see their baby girl, and intends to take him for every single cent she can.

Some of you need to stop feeling sorry for these girls because guess what, that girl had just as much premarital sex as he did, and is just as responsible as he is, and doing things like refusing to let the father see the child, doesn't mean you're supposed to look at her and say "Oh you poor girl, raiseing that baby all alone." when girls do things like that, you know that it really is a child, havinbg a child.

It's not he's fault that the girl is a .

Firstly, the poster never said his girlfriend was going to stop him seeing the baby, he made it quite clear he doesn't want the baby to exist, but she wants to keep it.

Its about time men started dealing with the possible repercussions of having sex instead of leaving it to the women alone to cope with, and if they don't do as the father says, start having a hissy fit!

It takes two to make a baby, and no one has the right to tell a woman she must have an abortion. So what if she is saying she will take him to the cleaners? If he was a decent human being he would be offering child support and she wouldn't need to go through the courts to make him pay.

If a man is a decent father he can get access to his child, that's what the court system is for. I have zero sympathy for any man who helps create a child and then asks the woman to abort that child because he doesn't want to be a dad. That decision needs to be made before the child in conceived.

And I have no sympothy for a girl who wants to spread her legs and then and moan about the reprecutions of such actions.

Despite the fact the child grows and is born from the mother's body, it is still only 50% hers, and 50% his. So He has just as much right to want it aborted as she does to not want it.

I'm not saying she should listen, but if she wants to have a child, and he doesn't, and she knows this, then she should stop her ing and raise the child all by her self.

My mom was a teen mother and my dad was a druggie abuser and she never asked for a dime because she knew what she was getting her self into when she laid down in that bed, and was prepared to take care of it.

I respect her more than any other person I know because of this. She never kept me from my father because even as a baby, she lov ed me enough, and respected me enough to allow me to make up my own mind about him, rather than her implant ideas in me about him.

Little girls need to grow up before they make babies.