| It's never easy to explain to a child that they will no longer have contact with someone you know they care about. You could have an open dialogue with your child about the person. Tell your child that things didn't work out, and that while that person cares very much for her, it is likely they won't be coming around anymore. You should try to get her to talk about her feelings with you. And, as a parent taking her daughters feelings into such consideration, you should try to really listen to your daughter so she will know that you love her, and this is just a part of life. You could relate it to another person in her life that she may not see often, and may not see again to help her to understand. For example, everytime I take my 4 y/o to the park she gets really attached to the kids she meets. She always hopes to see them again. Chances are more likely that she wont run into them again. But, she always asks me about these kids. I always try to tell her about how people come in and out of our lives very quickly sometimes, and we just have to savor every moment we have with people, because you never know when it will be the last time.
Just an aside, I would be careful about bringing guys around your 6y/o. I understand that you are moving on with your life and you are trying to make a new family, but your 6y/o can be damaged very easily by a random relationship in many ways. Try to make sure that the next 'guy' you introduce her to and have her spending time with, is 'the one', so that your daughter isn't becoming attached to guys that are just coming and going...the way you are becoming attached to them. The dating relationship is much too complex and mature of a scenario for a 6y/o. Let your daughter be a child, she'll grow up much too quickly if you put her in those situations too quickly, and too often. |