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  • May 31, 2009, 06:18 AM
    0428mom
    Humping at age 7
    Please help.My 7 year old girl is humping pillows &when her friends come over she shows them how to do it.What actions should I take?Please help.
  • May 31, 2009, 06:24 AM
    DoulaLC

    It's not unusual for her to find that the feelings she gets are enjoyable, however you can point out to her that those types of things are private and done by herself. Tell her that it is inappropriate for her to share it with her friends. You may want to add that some families would not be comfortable with it.
  • May 31, 2009, 06:26 AM
    0428mom
    Humping at 7 yrs old.
    My 7 year old daughter was showed how to hump pillows was she was 5.A girl that I babbysat for was 12 at the time.Now my daughter is 7 & she has been doing it ever since.But now she is showing her friends how to do it.Please help.What actions should I be taking.THIS HAPPEN LAST NIGHT WHEN HSE SHOWED HER FRIEND.WHAT DO I DO?
  • May 31, 2009, 06:30 AM
    hvacgal

    You need to tell her that it is OK to do this in private there is nothing wrong with it. However it is not appropriate for her to do it when other people are around. It is a private thing. Don't scold her she needs to be OK with her body teaching her it is wrong may cause problems later on in life. It just means she is in tune with her own body. WHich is a good thing not many women are. She just needs to practice a little discretion when doing so. Good luck
  • May 31, 2009, 06:30 AM
    shazamataz

    You need to sit down and talk to her.

    Explain to her that it is not appropriate do be doing this.

    At 7 years old little girls are curious about everything... there was a lady on here a while back asking about her daughter kissing another girl at about the same age.

    Talk, talk talk, it is always the first port of call!
  • May 31, 2009, 06:36 AM
    hvacgal

    I agree it is a normal thing and should not be scolded other than the fact that she needs to know it is a private thing. She should not do it in the living room, around family and friends.

    This does not make her abnormal in fact it is normal and quite impressive that she is so in tune with her own body. Now she just needs some guidance on the appropriate times to do these things.

    Also make sure you give her the talk about the fact that it is OK for her to do that but it is NOT OK for anyone other than herself to touch that place. I know it seems odd but it is a good talk to have with her this way she is informed about what is acceptable and what is not.

    Good for you for asking on this one!
  • May 31, 2009, 06:44 AM
    hvacgal

    I do not agree with the above comment. If you tell her it is not appropriate to do this she will think that it is wrong that she is feeling pleasure and it will hinder her development. These days children mature earlier than when we were kids. What is not appropriate is her doing it in public (in front of her friends/family). The actual act is normal she not abnormal for feeling this way. Just give her the tools to do this in a safe manor and make sure she knows that her private parts are only to be touched her own hands. Trust me this age is not too young to prepare her. Good luck
  • Jun 1, 2009, 03:13 AM
    shazamataz

    Personally I think kids these days are growing up way to fast.
    Yes, let her be curious about her body but I think actual sexual motions should be limited until she is older.
    I know there are people who will disagree but I certianly never humped things when I was this age and was discouraged by my mother to date boys and I have a perfectly normal sex life.
    She needs to know that she can talk to you about these things, my mother and I had a very open relationship when I was younger which helped me a lot.

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