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My daughter who is 16 years old just called me. She was really mad because she found out that I was going to take her mother to court to get some overpaid child support back. I have two kids with my new wife andI can not make ends meet. She said I would never see her or her sister if I sued their mother. I feel like I have already lost them. She said her mother was having a hard time and could not afford to give back any money. Not that it is my business. But, her new husband and her have a new house, new home theater and has spent $20,000.00 trying to get have another baby for him. I still live in an apartment and have no money. I am the bad guy??? She cheated on me and left me with nothing. I have had to struggle ever since. I love my daughters but, they have been brain washed. I miss them!
You know your daughter is giving you a hard time, but you also know that it is on mom's behalf. Every time she wants something she is probably told, "Well, you could have it if your dad weren't trying to sue me!" She is still a kid, and she places her anger on the easiest target, which is you because mom says it's your fault and you aren't there to defend yourself. There may not be much you can do by phone, especially if you don't get a word in edgewise. Try writing to your daughters. Don't go into details or dollar figures, but explain that you too are struggling, and you have been fair and paid all you can, and allowed them to move with their mom to spare them a court battle and to allow their mom to be happy. You may not see instant results, but I think at some point they will want to repair their relationship with you. Just be honest without being accusatory or sounding bitter. Be sincere in asking them to try to understand your circumstances. Don't make any negative comments about their mom now or in the future. One day they'll know who was worried about them, and who was worried about looking better than the other parent.
Yes V, people should try to never speak bad about a childs other parent, (it is degrading to the child, as you are rejecting the feelings that they have) Also the children never need to know about the legal aspects of these things.
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