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My daughter hits me

Hello! I have a 14 year old daughter that is on Zoloft for her anger issues. I have seen a big improvement but there are times she gets soo angry with me, she hits or bites me. During this time, she is very disrespectful, angry, mouthy, etc. After her "fit" she is always sorry and says she doesn't mean any of it. Question: How do I handle these fits of anger and abuse? Her father and I are divorced but get along very well (she lives w/ me). He always talks to her but nothing seems to help. We have tried counseling in the past but she refuses to talk so it is a waste of time and money. I feel like I am losing her and she is only 14!

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Old Feb 19, 2007, 06:33 PM   #2  
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You need to get her into counseling immediately. She needs to talk out her anger issues. This is totally unacceptable.

It is not a waste of time or money if you continue to take her there. She knows you will give up, so she remains tight lipped. You can 't give up, just take her no matter what. You may even want to consider family counseling.

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I agree, you need to get her help immediately, this is unacceptable behavior. Hitting/biting is very serious. I am not sure of the whole situation, however children who are dealing with loss (example parents divorce) can make them go through many steps. If you can find a one on one worker that she could trust - it would be great. Sometimes art therapy helps in this kinds of situation. Please get help for her and for yourself.

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You need to get her into counseling immediately. She needs to talk out her anger issues. This is totally unacceptable.

It is not a waste of time or money if you continue to take her there. She knows you will give up, so she remains tight lipped. You can 't give up, just take her no matter what. You may even want to consider family counseling.
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Please read this again. She KNOWS you will give up if she doesn't talk, so she doesn't talk, you think therapy doesn't help. She is manipulating you. Therapy for some can take many years. Not weeks, not months, but years.

Whatever you do, don't let her get the upper hand. She already thinks she has it. So, dig your heals in, be strong. This is totally unacceptable.

Just think, if it is not taken care of now, what about when she has a child, the child is sick and will not sleep, will cry, etc and etc.....

Nip the problem in the bud now, while you can.
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I agree it is manipulation, that is why you have to remain consistent. Children know when we follow through on our words.
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